Siblings by different donors

LizB

Hello. My partner and I currently have a beautiful 15 month old. We are looking to expand our family; however the donor we used is now inactive. I desperately want more children and a sibling for our baby, but we both have been struggling with the reality that our children may have different donors. We are both in agreement that we are our children's parents, but are also struck with the reality that at some point our kids may want to get in touch with the donor. The last thing we want is for our children to resent us for having different donors.

Has anyone else had experience with having different donors for their kids and if so do you have any advice?

toup

My wife and I have 7 year old twins that I carried and my wife is currently pregnant with our 3rd child with a different donor. Since she's carrying this time our twins and new baby will not be biologically related. We spent a lot of time thinking about it and debating whether I would carry again (I'm not the best baby carrier). To us the biology doesn't have much to do with who makes up our family and I couldn't be happier that things have gone the way they have. Watching my wife carry our child is incredible and it is neat to be on the other side if things. In short love makes a family. Best wishes!

ladybug1129

Hello,
My wife and I are also trying to expand our family and like you our donor is inactive
it was a big deal to use the same donor for me but my wife said we base our family on love not blood so that made it a little easier. since we cannot get the same donor we have decided to stick with the same ethnicity so the kids can still have the same features and all of them feel equal. Do you know any siblings? Currently we are aware of siblings and meet up every summer.