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The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
Questions about your forum access? Email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Follow these steps to join a private donor group:
1) Press "Join" at the right of the group
2) Once prompted to confirm your request please list this information so we can verify your information:
Name (under which the vial was purchased)
Clinic Name
Donor number
Child Date of Birth
*If you are looking to start a private group for a PRS donor please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com with the above information and that you are looking for a PRS group*
If you have any questions about the verification process please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
new to this and super overwhelmed
wcgymnast
Junior Member Junior Member
Hi I am a 41 yr old female from PA that has done endless dating, wasted time in past relationships and here I am almost 42 and single and wanting a family. I just simply have not found the right person to start a family with...yet. I have gone to a fertility clinic in my area and have a plan set to start IUI with a donor. I just started clomid yesterday and going through the process early August. I am soooo OVERWHELMED with it all. I have come up with zero matches with my criteria which I don't feel are unrealistic, but then again just started my search tonight...I am not sure specifically what advice I am looking for but it is normal to have all emotions...guilt being one for wanting a baby with no biological father in the picture...it breaks my heart but I feel I don't have any other choice...and I know I am meant to be a mom.
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It is a very overwhelming process but in the end we will be blessed with healthy babies!!
Jaszica, can you share the single mother by choice support groups you have found?
I think we all have a lot in common. I just turned 38 and started the iui process in June. This month will be my second iui attempt with meds. Im hoping to do a piggy back iui next week.
I always knew I would be a mom however, didn't imagine this would be my path. I told myself that if if wasn't married or in a committed relationship by this year I would look in to the donor process. I am a successful, caring and compassionate woman as are all of the wonderful ladies i have been grateful to meet on this thread.
I was very terrified when picking my donor 4211. There are so many emotions and things I had to consider that I hadn't expected to feel.
I had a physical characteristic I knew I was looking for then realized there was more to really think about when deciding. I struggled with anonymous and ID option for awhile. There was also a fear if I looked too deep into this particular donor I would start to become attached to him somehow. In fact I dreaded listening to his voice. Maybe I'm just too much of a softy though. But how he answered the questions, I was assured he was the right donor for me and my future child. I did end up picking an anonymous donor and feel more comfortable about that decision now than I did before.
I've also struggled and chatted with these girls about dating during this process. Along with many other thoughts and ideas.
One thing I personally have had a hard time thinking about in my heart is wether this is fair to my child to not have a father. I grew up with a father that wasn't very much there for me and I have been affected much by that. And in some way I think I might do this unintentionally to my child by picking a donor.
What I have to remind myself is how much love this child will receive not only from me but also my support system. And having a baby doesn't mean I won't be married when God see's it's right for me. I am soo excited to soon be a mother. Words can't even express.
I think we all are very courageous women to be able to walk this journey. I love that each day I can sit and read and respond to these women that totally understand what it's like to do this. I can't tell you what a difference meeting these ladies and talking daily has helped me emotionally.
I hope you continue to keep us updated on your experiences.)
Kisses
Lisa
I have found many on Meetup.com under a local search for single mom's or single parents.
The big group seems to be Single Mothers by Choice (http://www.singlemothersbychoice.org) as well as Choice Moms (choice moms.org), Single Mothers (http://www.singlemothers.org), Parents without Partners.
I am trying to decide which to join!
Good luck and best wishes