How do you feel about many donor half-siblings out there?

smiles2016

This is the question that stumps me when picking a donor. I feel like I have narrowed my choices but then to hear that the pregnancy range is currently 10-15 pregnancies, I get a little overwhelmed by the possibility of 50ish half-siblings (based on the 25 family limit, Im guessing some have one some have three so an avg of 2...IDK?!) out there. Thoughts?

leleca

I am also picking a donor. I see no problem at all with multiple half siblings. What are your exact concerns?

mizzy409

I also don't see a problem with multiple half siblings. I question how frequently they ever really have to retire a donor because the number has gotten that high. But even if it did I plan on being open with my child about all this and help them understand that when they start dating although the risk is remote, they need to be aware of it. But mostly I like the idea of half siblings and being in contact with them. I feel this will give my child a branch of family that is more theirs rather than only having my family.

CRippli1

Anne72

lovethislife13

when you saying "sibling registry" do you mean the "family forum" on this website or is there another sibling registry you are referring to? I have a baby from donor 4621 and was shocked no one else is on the family forum. Actually hoping to hear from other people out there that have children from this donor.

Neb121

I feel this way too. I am new to all this.

Anne72

tllkks

There actually is a Donor Sibling Registry out there and you can join at any time. You have to pay either a yearly membership fee or join forever. I think the forever cost is $175 and in my opinion, it's totally worth it. I've met a number of donor sibling families on that registry and also a small number on here as well. People often "lurk" on the DSR site, so they join but they don't post anything for their donor, so if you join and look and don't see anyone, don't be alarmed. I'd recommend posting and waiting, knowing people will eventually reach out. You don't need to wait until your kid is 18 to join that site (like the person said above - that's not true.) When your child turns 18, if you used an ID Options donor through Fairfax and you registered their birth, then they can get the donor's full name, last known contact, etc. from Fairfax. Best of luck!

mackadoo2005

I've found ten 1/2 siblings. I like the thought that maybe my child will be friends in the future with some of them. Those will be the only siblings my child has. I want a larger family unit for my child vs. what I'm able to provide.