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To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
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The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
Questions about your forum access? Email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Follow these steps to join a private donor group:
1) Press "Join" at the right of the group
2) Once prompted to confirm your request please list this information so we can verify your information:
Name (under which the vial was purchased)
Clinic Name
Donor number
Child Date of Birth
*If you are looking to start a private group for a PRS donor please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com with the above information and that you are looking for a PRS group*
If you have any questions about the verification process please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
As a single person, how did you know it was the right time to have a baby?
lizzieloo3
Member Member
I am new to the forums, my name is Lizzie.
I am 33, single and childless. I've been single my whole life, a choice I am happy about. I don't see a partner in my future (I would accept one if he came my way, it's just never been something I yearn for) but I just love being single!
I have wanted kids for a long time. Last Christmas I decided I would get a donor and do it alone. I haven't yet...what's stopping me?
I went back to school and just graduated in April, with lots of debt. I have 2 permanent jobs working a total of 32 hours per week with full benefits. But they aren't the best hours and getting daycare will be more difficult because of these hours. I also wanted to have a single full time job working 40 hours. But since I work in Social work a 9-5 job is unlikely for quite some time. I like to have my "ducks in a row" but a friend pointed out if I get them in a row I will likely find other ducks that need to be organized.
I worry that I will keep pushing it off and it will never happen. And I worry about my age. If I want 2 children I feel like I need to start. I also feel like now is the right time, and I'm not sure if this is the kind of decision I should let my heart make.
Truth is as I obsessively look at donor profiles (for the past 10 months) I came across one today and I felt like he was the one. I felt so connected I stated crying.
How did you decide it was the right time?
Lizzie
I am 33, single and childless. I've been single my whole life, a choice I am happy about. I don't see a partner in my future (I would accept one if he came my way, it's just never been something I yearn for) but I just love being single!
I have wanted kids for a long time. Last Christmas I decided I would get a donor and do it alone. I haven't yet...what's stopping me?
I went back to school and just graduated in April, with lots of debt. I have 2 permanent jobs working a total of 32 hours per week with full benefits. But they aren't the best hours and getting daycare will be more difficult because of these hours. I also wanted to have a single full time job working 40 hours. But since I work in Social work a 9-5 job is unlikely for quite some time. I like to have my "ducks in a row" but a friend pointed out if I get them in a row I will likely find other ducks that need to be organized.
I worry that I will keep pushing it off and it will never happen. And I worry about my age. If I want 2 children I feel like I need to start. I also feel like now is the right time, and I'm not sure if this is the kind of decision I should let my heart make.
Truth is as I obsessively look at donor profiles (for the past 10 months) I came across one today and I felt like he was the one. I felt so connected I stated crying.
How did you decide it was the right time?
Lizzie
Comments
I just turned 40 and have been single also not by choice. I have wanted children for at least 5 years now and decided last year it was time. No more putting itt off. There is never a right time to have kids. They just work with your schedule vice versa. I had some fertility issues that would get worse and may pprevent children in the future so now was the time. I am a full time student and plan on doing this by myself until Mr. right comes along. SOmetimes you just have to do it. Being 33 you do have some time depending on how you want to spread them out. I found my donor and got pregnant on the first try. Due in January. I will be still in school but graduating in May and hopefully have a job lined up.
Trust your instict and if you feel that you are ready to do it, go ahead. We have pretty much the same.. i kept putting it off cause of work and i kept saying i'll do it when i'm ready. But believe me, there will always be reasons to come up to delay it. Don't let it come on your way. I kept putting of mine for year but i'm having my first IUI next month. Hopefully i get it the first try too.. also, another thing to consider is when you find the right donor for you (which i think you already did), go ahead and get it so you won't regret it when they ran out. So if you are ready to go ahead, visit your doctor and start with the prelimimary test and appointments to get you ready before the actual procedure. Good luck!
Hello Taball,
Congratulations! I'm hoping for your safe pregnancy..i wish i also get pregnant the first try. I'll do mine next month..
I hope everything is going well for you too.
They say you are never fully ready for anything big in life, marriage, kids, new house, or any huge life change. I really feel life is about taking chances and when you feel the urge just jump. There are many single moms out there who are in your situation and do just fine. Remember the most important thing about having babies is that they feel loved. The rest falls into place.
Just take a chance because you don't know what the future will hold.
Good Luck to u and everyone here!
I have not slept since last Thursday and have been asking my close friends for advice. They are all supportive and are encouraging me to go for it. I also told my Mom I was considering this and she was all for it and said she would babysit every other weekend when I work at my one job. I was really surprised by this as we didn't have a good relationship for a long time. It has gotten so much better and I think she'll be a good Grandma. I am going home Thursday to talk to my Dad as I HAD this weird need to get his blessing. I say HAD, because as of this morning I don't need his blessing as I have chosen to go for it. It is the right time, every bone in my body knows it.
I called Repromed (It's for us Canadians) and started the process. Bloodwork and Urine samples this week and when they get the results they will call me for a consultation.
For those curious it is #5044 that I felt the connection. I'm not necessarily going to pick him though. His sperm can be shipped to Canada but I think I would like a Canadian through Repromed. Repromed doesn't seem to have a lot of sperm donor choices so 5044 might be the one in the end.
Thank you for the tip of the Single Moms by Choice! I will be joining it for support!
Thank you and good luck to you!
Congrats to you!!!