Thinking of changing my mind....

Kellyp37

I went to a friends this weekend that had twins and is doing it alone and I think reality set in. I don’t know if I would want to have a kid alone. I might regret never having a kid someday but I can’t believe how much work it really is. I didn’t sleep at all and I’m exhausted and work 50 hours a week. How do single moms do it?

mizzy409

It is definitely a lot of work but the best thing I’ve ever done. I found it really helps to have a schedule and keep to it as much as possible. But there is a fine line too. You don’t want to raise them to be inflexible. For work, well instead of staying late I’ve really stopped taking a lunch break for an hour. I’ll keep that hour open so I can go get food but I’ll eat at my desk and read email or something more low key. And if I really need to get something done I can work from home after the baby is in bed. Granted I have a good sleeper so I have a couple hours to myself each night. Oh but when she giggles.... it’s all worth it.

If you don’t think you can handle it then I won’t try to talk you out of it. This definitely isn’t easy so you have to be all in, but if you think you’ll regret not having kids then you may want to start thinking about if there are ways to make your life simpler so at least you minimize the work. I found “gear” is really a single mother’s friend. Swings,bouncers, jumpers, carriers... keep them close but out of your arms for chunks of time will let you get things done like vacuumin

Kellyp37

Thank you so much for the information. I meeded to hear that. I was overwhelmed and it was for literally a day and a half and I wasn’t alone. I would not want twins. That I will say! My friend is letting me have one of them for a weekend so I can see what it’s like to have a baby.

lizzieloo3

I think when you are truly ready you will do anything to have a child, nothing can stop you, even knowing you wont get a good nights sleep for years, lol.