How did your husband feeling about using donor sperm?

jaanni88

Oliviakins

jaanni88

Oliviakins

I think you're saying pretty much the right things. If he brings up feeling inadequate or not being able to give you a child, just remind him that being a dad is more than providing genetic material. Even though there are a number of things set by genetics, there's also even more that's formed by experience and upbringing and that is what he will be providing. Through upbringing, he would be providing a child to you, or rather helping you in raising this person. Down the line if everything goes well and you're pregnant (I know my wife and I didn't even want to think about that through the process because even though it's what we wanted, our emotions were constantly beaten down through IUIs not working, so we just didn't want to get our hopes up and take things one moment at a time) you can engage him in conversations about things that he wants to do with the baby. Thing he wants to show her, places you want to go, holidays, that kind of thing. Kind of engaging him in the father process while also guiding his thoughts to the active role he will be playing and the fact that he will be a dad.

Mandy

Hi this is my first time being on here!! My husband had cancer when he was younger. All the radiation and chemo has left him with no sperm. We have been married for 12 years (13 in May). Their are some days he is great with the idea and others not so much. We are having the IUI process. I know it is difficult to talk about but talking throw it and telling each other your fears and what concerns both of you will really help. Best of luck!!

ecommercebuilder

All you can do is keep underlining the fact that being a father is more than sharing genetic material. It is a role that is played and it's not predicated by genetics.