What are you going to tell people about your baby daddy?

Marcie35

My close friends and family will obviously know the truth. But I am wondering what others are planning to tell casual acquaintances, neighbors, parents of my daughters friends, and most importantly co-workers??? I have been a single mom to my 9yr old most of her life and all of the people listed above are going to know (or believe) that I am single. Are you planning to just lay all your cards on the table and not worry about what they think? Would love to hear how you ladies plan to handle this. Thanks!

mizzy409

My Daughter is a Year now and I’ve been very open about it. I don’t offer up to random people or anything. Like if someone at the grocery store says something like “she probably has daddy wrapped around her finger” I just nod. But daycare, neighbors all know. I haven’t received any negative comments. Usually it’s more like “Good for you!” I just find it easier to be open about it. Then you don’t have to keep track of who knows what.

Marcie35

Thank you Mizzy! That makes me feel much better!

heartolion

momtobe

Marcie35

Are you worried that your child will be resentful because you did not choose a donor that he/she could contact later on? I have read a lot about donor conceive children being particularly upset that their parents chose anonymous donors.

mizzy409

Marcie35

mizzy409

lizzieloo3

I plan to tell my child the truth from the get go as well as everyone else. Friends and family know but if a stranger asks I will likely just say there is no Dad in the picture, unless I feel it appropriate to say I used a donor. Talking about these things is what normalizes it so one day it won't feel weird or shameful (because there is nothing wrong with it). I have read similar things to Mizzy in that children who are lied to or parents wait until 'the right time' are not as well adjusted as those who are told since infancy. Telling them from an early age helps them to accept it and allows them to ask questions

Sfrancis914

My child is 8 month old now, and most people in my life are aware i used a donor. All have been happy and given the terrible baby daddies they ended up with, wished they had done the same lol. I plan on telling my daughter as soon as she begins asking questions.

Stephann

New to this group and just now beginning to process of considering a sperm donor. Single mom of a 6yr old boy. Is there the option for a disclosure donor via Fairfax cryobank? I haven been able to figure the out from looking at the profiles

kathy13

I'm planning on telling my child as soon as they start asking questions. My grandma found out at age 75 that she was adopted so that puts a whole new spin on it for me. I want my baby growing up knowing their own story, and I plan on telling other people too- not necessarily EVERYONE who makes a comment but my circle of friends, people at church, etc. will all know. The donor I'm currently planning on has a different heritage from me and I want my baby to grow up celebrating the other half of themselves just as much as my half.