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The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
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What are you going to tell people about your baby daddy?
Marcie35
Member Member
My close friends and family will obviously know the truth. But I am wondering what others are planning to tell casual acquaintances, neighbors, parents of my daughters friends, and most importantly co-workers??? I have been a single mom to my 9yr old most of her life and all of the people listed above are going to know (or believe) that I am single. Are you planning to just lay all your cards on the table and not worry about what they think? Would love to hear how you ladies plan to handle this. Thanks!
Comments
Since you have an older child, you should think about what you'd like to say, both to help her and any new child.
The two challenges I anticipate are 1) The opinions that a woman my age should not be having any more children and 2) I will be a single parent.
I guess I am going to have to be tough. Not only for my future child but with close minded people. I believe I will keep the unknown donor a secret until my child is older and then I will tell the truth. If my child wants to share with others that will be his or her choice.
But I guess on the flip side, with all the ancestry DNA testing available today, there is a good chance of still finding the donor. I think the child just needs to be prepared that the donor may have had reasons for not being contacted and therefore finding them may not go well. Even a donor who said they were ok with it 18 plus years earlier may not be interested then.
My question about the closed donor was really for momtobe.
But if I were you I would think hard about keeping the donor situation a secret. The research I did suggested being open with at least the kid from the beginning will make it less likely to be an issue later. When parents wait to inform children about their origins often it can lead to them feeling resentful for being lied to. I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer here, just food for thought.