Selection Saturday Party

kamuba23

I am a single woman choosing IUI to have a child. To make my decision, I narrowed down basic information that was critical to me - race, heritage, etc. and I chose 10 donors who I thought were my best candidates and printed out all their history, background, medical and every other bit of information offered. I then invited over my family and closes friends for a "Selection Saturday" party. Everyone reviewd the candidates I had selected and it was amazing - everyone agreed on the top candidates! Each person put "x" for pros they saw or "-" for cons on top of each candidates packet. A lot of discussion came about and I learned so much that I would not have otherwise known to look for or knew what it meants (medically speaking). People noticed traits or family history that because of their own experiences understood saw positive or negative potential in specific candidates. At the end of the night, there were three top candidates, two that got 100% thumbs up.

Alas, my two IUI's have not yet been successful and in the middle I got a new job so I will try again in a few months, possible with a new donor.

deh0329@hotmail.com

I absolutely love this idea!! I have already chosen my donor, and just found out I was pregnant five days ago but I really struggled when I was choosing a donor! I wish I had thought of this! Thanks for sharing!

Oh and good luck to you. I know it is easier said than done but don't get discouraged. It took me 3 IUI's to finally get my positive pregnancy test!

pequele

I agree, what a great idea!
I'm a single mom going for number 2! I had originally had to come up with a new donor and had to go through the selection. I did something similar to you but not a party since most friends and family were much farther away. I narrowed it down to 3 or 4 that I was on paper perfectly happy with all. So I sent out the profile pics to people and asked them to help me choose based on my attributes and my son's. Just before making my purchase though some more vials of my son's donor were made available to me! If I had to do it the same way again though I sure would!

clarapippa

That's kind of a neat idea! I don't think I would go so far as to throw a party, but I have approached the three most important people in my life and asked them what they thought of my choice. Well, to be honest, one is my husband and his opinion is the most important and he has the final say! (Something we agreed on.) Seems like my best friend, mother and husband all like our number 1 choice for the same reasons we like him! It was like my own little set of selection parties!

cottonlily

That idea is pretty awesome. I love how you found a way to make the selection process fun and included your family and friends at the same time.