Hello and welcome to the Fairfax Cryobank Family Forum!
The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
Questions about your forum access? Email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Follow these steps to join a private donor group:
1) Press "Join" at the right of the group
2) Once prompted to confirm your request please list this information so we can verify your information:
Name (under which the vial was purchased)
Email
Clinic Name
Donor number
Child Date of Birth
*If you are looking to start a private group for a PRS donor please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com with the above information and that you are looking for a PRS group*
If you have any questions about the verification process please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
Questions about your forum access? Email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Follow these steps to join a private donor group:
1) Press "Join" at the right of the group
2) Once prompted to confirm your request please list this information so we can verify your information:
Name (under which the vial was purchased)
Clinic Name
Donor number
Child Date of Birth
*If you are looking to start a private group for a PRS donor please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com with the above information and that you are looking for a PRS group*
If you have any questions about the verification process please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Our Stories
hoppingpenguin
Junior Member Junior Member
I thought this might be a good place for us to post our stories. I know there's only two of us right now, but some day there may be more.
I've posted my story here: viewtopic.php?f=5&t=25
Please share yours if you're willing.
I've posted my story here: viewtopic.php?f=5&t=25
Please share yours if you're willing.
Comments
She's beautiful, funny, energetic, outgoing, smart, friendly.. I'm sure I could go on. We can't imagine life without her and never questioned the method we choose when building our family.
We're actually trying again right now to hopefully have another baby. We had an unsuccessful Dec 10 cycle and have two more cycles to try as we only have two vials left and there is no more availability for the donor. So we're hoping one of the cycles works.
The concieving part of our story is really actually quite simple. My partner and I (2 females) knew that we wanted kids, and since she really wanted to conceive and carry, we chose DS as the way to create our family. Two failed cycles with a different donor, a month off, and then one cycle with donor 1481 and here we are with a 3 ½ year old daughter!
Although donor 1481 has some vaguely familiar characteristics to me (ethnicity and hair color), that wasn’t our reason for picking him. After listening to his audio interview we felt like he was the kind of guy that we could share a cup of coffee or a beer with. Although that will never happen, we both felt it was important that we liked the guy. Since there is no chance of us keeping the fact that we used DS to conceive her a secret (since someday she will understand biology), we didn’t feel we needed a physical match with our donor, just a kindred spirit kind of thing.
We are lucky to live in a state (Minnesota) where second parent adoption is available to gay and lesbian couples. I was able to adopt my daughter without my partner giving up parental rights. Her birth certificate lists both of our names as Parent 1 and Parent 2.
A year or two after our daughter was born I was contacted via email by the mother of a child also born of this donor (I had registered at the donor sibling registry). I was completely freaked out by her email and never responded. I think, at the time, my issue was this: I have no biological relationship to my daughter and I was afraid that if she ever met other kids by the same donor, that she would feel a stronger connection to them than she would to me. Looking back, I realize how dumb (although real) those emotions were. My daughter is my daughter and the bond is strong. We will forever be family regardless of our lack of biological connection.
There are now adult photos available of the donor (these are recent because they were not available when we conceived). I feel almost obligated to purchase them since I want my daughter to have access to any information about the donor that she wants. However, I live in the same city as CLI, so I’m afraid the donor might still live here and I would be out somewhere and recognize him someday! Silly, I know…
We are currently trying for child #2 with this donor. However, there was only 1 vial left so hopefully this cycle takes! If not, well, I think our desire for a second child outweighs our desire to use the same donor. Two months ago there were 7 vials, so someone out there purchased 6 vials recently. There may be more parents joining this forum soon!
Lori
We're in the same boat TTC#2. I bought two vials I had on hold last week and there is none left now. I know there was 3 when I put them on hold. When we first started checking back in August there was 15 vials left I believe.
I wish you a lot of luck with your upcoming cycle. I should get my period within the week and will be doing a gonal-f/IUI cycle.
You'll be happy to know that we're stopping at one so if more become available I won't be snatching them up
CLI told me that 1481 (I have no idea what to call him!) is still active, but he hasn't donated in awhile and he has not indicated to them when he will donate again. However, even if he came in tomorrow to donate, he would have to be in quarantine for 6-9 months. We are at a point with our daughter's age, and well, our ages, that we don't want to wait to see if he becomes available again (since it could be anywhere from 9 months to several years).
Lori
"our" story is that I'm a SMC. Single by Chance and Mother by Choice. After a divorce and then ending a long-term relationship, I decided to try the motherhood route on my own. I was lucky enough to get pregnant on my 3rd cycle with my son. I love being a mother!! My son is a joy. I am so glad I could experience pregnancy and nursing and all that. I got pregnant almost 2 years ago now, but miscarried early in the 2nd trimester. I tried 4 more times and finally moved on. My benefits had run out and I had grown weary of hormones and doctors appointments. I didn't want trying to get pregnant to run my and my son's life any more. Not everyone would agree with my decision, but that's okay. It's the right one for me. I started the adoption process last spring (between federal tax refunds and my company benefits, it should cost me less than $5k). It's not always easy to wait, but I have no more or less control than I did getting pregnant really. I have made contact with two birth mothers, so... we'll see what happens. In the meantime, N and I are having a lot of fun. I'll do another adoption marketing blitz in the spring. So... we're a little atypical, but very happy.
I think I can safely say that we're all a little atypical here!
Good luck with your adoption. Keep us posted on your progress
Wendy