Fertility Issues and Marriage

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Please share your story about couples dealing with male infertility issues. Very few couples are willing to openly discuss this matter with family and friends. Therefore, it may seem like you are the only ones having fertility struggles. This board is a great place to open up and share in an anonymous setting.

Ty&Nic

My husband and I have been married for almost a year now. Right from the start he made it very clear there was less than a 1% chance he could naturally father a child but that he was open to donor as long as I did not have resverations about it. We finally got a diagnosis for all his medical problems this spring and having that has helped a lot. My husband has Klinfelters. It is a chromosomal abnormality that instead of being 46XY he is 47XXY. Some men with this diagnosis are able to father children but after several test we learned it was not the case with my husband. I think the hardest part of this is the reaction of his mother. She has not had an easy time dealing with the fact that she will not have biological grandchildren since he is an only child. She has taken small steps at accepting our decision but is very negative and would perfer if we did this on her time schedule giving her more time to adjust to the news. BUT we are ready at add to our family and give our 10 year old daughter a sibling. We have completed all the pre-screening and today we started our first Clomid cycle with an anticipated insemination around 11/8. We could not be more excited for what the future has in store for us !! Would love to hear if any other couples also have the Klinfelters diagnosis and how they are dealing with family members concerns !!

pinklilyrose7

My husband and have been trying to conceive for 3 years without any success. While my husband doesn't have the same medical problem as your husband, he does have a male factor infertility. Becoming parents is be our biggest dream!. My advice to you is to go continue doing what you want to do and please, don't worry about your mother in law and her timeline. True, family support is important, but think of your dream and what you and your husband want. Getting pregnant is hard on its own, and if you add what other people think, it makes it so much harder. Focus on making yourself happy. Obviously, the news that their son can not have biological children would be very difficult for anyone to process, and she might take a long time to do it. Don't put your plans on hold. Eventually she will come around, and if she doesnt, it will be her loss. Sometimes it is not DNA what makes someone a parent, but a desire to love and nurture that little human being.

Ty&Nic

Thank you for your response !!! We are planning on moving forward and excited for IUI #5 with next cycle !!! Have you had any success with IUI using DS ?