What to do, what to do...

mom2bek

I am a single mom, with three kids... when I was little I always wanted a big family! I wanted 5-6 kids, see there was just me and my bratty sister, and I wanted more in my life! I had my 3 with my ex-husband, and lets just say he is no longer in the picture... so my kids and I are doing great! BUT I still want those 2 more babies... I am single, and sometimes struggle finacally - but we always come out on top in the end! My sister and I are looking at this option (semi seriously for her - more seriously I think for me)... I want more kids NOW!!!

Can anyone tell me, am I as crazy as I think I might be? Or do I go for my dream, stop crying about not having the babies, and actually have them!?

Thank you,
Kristina

amyhensley007

Well, I for one do not think you are crazy! At least if you are, then I am much more so!!
I've been on my own now for almost four years raising my four boys. My oldest is 19, almost 20 - and my youngest is 10. I always wanted to have more kids, and love being a mom. I'm sad that all my boys are now double digits! I've been pursuing this for several months. I've talked about it with my kids, and they are all supportive. We are not wealthy either, but we do okay. I look at it like this: In ten years, will I regret not having more kids? If the answer is yes - and I KNOW it will be - then why wait? I'm already 42. I'm not willing to wait on the "perfect" man to come along. 8-)
For me, I will be using both donor sperm AND donor egg. The donor egg part was a tough decision for me, but my doctor ran some basic tests and said that my egg health was, well, not very good. Basically, I would only have a 5% chance of conceiving with my own eggs. I plan to have my procedure done in April, in Maryland, because there is a clinic there that does a three/one shared donor egg program that will save me thousands of dollars. They will plan on transferring 2 embryos - so there's even a chance at twins (which is actually okay with me ).
So, long story short - only YOU know what will make you happy, and life is too short to spend with regret! I say GO FOR IT! Let me know what you decide - we could be each other's support system through this crazy journey!!
Amy

ChrQuen75

Hi Amy and Kristina,

My name is Tiffany and I am a Single Mom By Choice(SMC), also. I chose to have my son by myself with donor sperm. I jsut wanted to introduce myself and tell you that there is a HUGE support system out there for SMC's. I belong to a Secret Facebook group that has over 300 members that are SMCs. Let me know if you are interested in joining us.

Tiffany

tllombardi

Tiffany, I am a SMC. I would love to join the Facebook page. Would you send me info?

Tina

ChrQuen75

Sure Tina! If you tell me what your name on FB is I will friend you then add you to the group. You can email me at ChrQuen75@aol.com with your name on fb if you are not comfortable posting it here. Then after I add you, you can unfriend me if you choose. We are always glad to find more SMCs.

Tiffany