IUI Frustration

Jill

My husband and I just had our third IUI. We went into this thinking it would go smoothly since it is my husband who has the fetility issue and not myself. The two week wait is the worst- it always ends in disappointment. We really thought this time was going to work, but then I woke up this morning with the sure signs of a period. Any stories from people who have gone through a similar experience would be appreciated!

prattygirl28

erikim21

My husband and I are in the same boat - and I feel your frustration! We have gone through 4 IUI cycles and I'm about to begin our 5th. I just had an HSG done today - and all is clear - but still waiting.... After our 3rd IUI, I had a positive pregnancy blood test, but when I returned 3 days later my levels dropped and I got my period :-( I keep telling myself that we are just experiencing what every other normal couple goes through when trying to naturally conceive... but it just costs us a whole lot more money. Stay positive - and wishing you and your husband the best of luck! ~Kim

farm1229

I just wanted to wish you good luck. We are in our first cycle of IUI. I have read that it is normal to take several cycles... not like that helps.

shajen04

KJtrips+

ladymacb29

hyphenatedlady

I just wanted to say good luck. It took us four IUI's to conceive our twins.

T&K

Keep the faith! My wife and I went through 6 tries and finally got lucky on the 6th. The pregnancy has totally be en worth the wait. Good luck!

ladymacb29

hoppingpenguin

Jill

Wow- thank you for all of the responses! It really does help to see responses from other people! We are going to have our fourth IUI (if all goes well) next Monday. We did choose a new donor, somebody who has had reported pregnancies and has his own children, so I feel better about that. I do take Clomid, but it is a very small dose right now because I reacted very strongly to a regular dose (7 follicles!!!). Thank you so much for all of the well wishes and hopefully it will be good news soon!

ladymacb29

I think what also helped me was using the Ovidril (I forget how to spell it) so the doctor knew exactly when I'd ovulate. Before, I was just using the ovulation kits.

babybound

I know how some of you feel. My hubby and I have been trying for over 3 years. We began our journey with my obgyn who answered my concern with statement with statements like "Just relax, it will happen. You'll be pregnant before you come back to see me next year." When the time came around for my yearly appointment, I asked if he would advise me in TTC. After all, I have 2 kids from a previous relationship-what could be the problem? He referred me to a MD in Jackson Mississippi. Our problem, so it seems is male factor. We did 5 IUIs with my hubby supplying the semen, no success. I don't think anyone who is outside of this situation can understand how devistating it is to see your period come every month after taking the pills (Femara) and injections (Ovidrel). The guilt is so heavy, and as a wife knowing that the problem is not mine, it was difficult to keep my chin up for him. He has wanted kids of his own for his entire adult life. He adores my kids, he calls them "our kids". Just melts my heart to see him hurt. So, we kept going for each other. He lost his job and we had to stop trying. We are at the point where we could either use a donor or do IVF. My insurance does not cover fertility assistance at all, and IVF is very expensive and we were not sure how we felt about using a donor. We are back, hubby has new good job and has decided that we should give it a go with a donor. We researched a few companies for donors and were very happy with what Fairfax has to offer. We feel, and I know this sounds crazy, like we know this donor. There is ample information for us to make this choice and we are excited about the try. I saw my doctor in August, ordered the semen, am taking my Femara days 4-8, am scheduled for sonogram of follicles on Tuesday and we'll go from there. Wish me luck, send me all your prayers-and I will be praying for you as well!

ladymacb29

Good luck!

Gabesmom

I am 2 for 3 getting pregnant after IUI. Here's what I learned: have an HSG right before your cycle begins in order to clear your fallopian tubes. It works! Also, don't mess around doing an IUI without drugs. Follistim works! Why spend all that time and money doing an IUI with only one follicle?

amyswv

It is so hard to wait! The frustration is terrrible! Hang in there. I don't know what you have already tried, but I tried IUI 6 times. I had worked with my regular OB/GYN for the first five tries. She is a wonderful OB, but her speciality is taking care of pregnant women, but not getting them pregnant! Finally, I was feeling terrible (and running out of funds) so I decided to see a specialist (which is about a two hour drive from home.) That did the trick. He did some minor testing with me, put me on clomid for one month, monitored the potential eggs via ultrasound and did the IUI on the day I ovulated. (one of my problems was that when you use the home ovulation test most of the time the average person ovulates within 48 hours. By the time I was getting a positive on the home ovulation test, I would ovulate in about 12 hours) --his method worked and I have a beautiful 18 month old son! (Donor 2539 rocks!)---don't let it get you down, it will happen!

clarapippa

I'm going to do my first attempt at insemination next month, and this thread is a little intimidating to me. I am planning on purchasing 4 "samples" of my chosen donor, but it sounds like I may need to do 6! I haven't gone in for my xray/ultrasound yet but past tests have all looked to be in my favor. Still I have this overarching, everpresent dread that this will not take. Our savings account is tight, so every try counts. I know that being worrisome is the worst thing to do, as the stress will affect my body throughout the process, so how do I think positive?

ladymacb29

clarapippa

ladymacb29

I live close enough, so I'd just pick them up each cycle. After seeing the behavior of one of the couriers, while waiting for an appointment at my doctor's, I'm glad I did that...

clarapippa

ladymacb29

FedEx is probably better than the courier service! The guy double-parked, brought it to the wrong address, and then was fighting with the nurses because he was in a hurry to get out of there while they checked their records and the container to make sure everything was right.

clarapippa

Holy cow! Well, I sure hope someone spoke to the courier service about that employee. (Am I the only one who speaks to people's bosses or managers when a situation is particularly bad or good anymore?)

angelica123

Vendesi23

ladymacb29

You don't need to pick a donor who is close to your husband's characteristics - you can pick any donor you want, really. My husband's a red head and Fairfax didn't have any red heads, so we went with someone who had the same ethnic background.

Katrin

I feel for each and everyone of you! I tried to get pregnant using IUI with a donor and it took three tries and resulted in my DS. I went back to try again using the same donor and am now on try number 4 with no apparent success. I moved from NE to PA so I had to change DR and that is my biggest problem! My DR in NE was very aggressive using Folistim and an HCG forget the brand from the start working with 4-6 follicles. My DR in PA is so worried about multiples that they wouldn't put me on anything but Clomid until this last cycle and even now they won't use the dosage I had in NE, they think only one follicle is a thing to celebrate. I have PCOS so infertility is my issue so I can't understand why they won't use my prior DRs formula since I have living proof it worked. I know it's silly.. Believe me I am grateful and thankful for my Miracle everyday but wanted to give him a sibling. Just frustrated and thinking of going to new DR but that means starting all over again with all the delays again and I will be 39 this coming year.

knicky

We got lucky on the 6th try, too. Each time it was so difficult, getting your hopes up to be disappointed, but it was so worth the wait. It seemed like each time, they stepped up the tests...it finally worked when they gave me the shot, then did an ultrasound to see if i was ready, and i wasn't so they gave another shot and then did another ultrasound, and then finally did the iui and that time, it worked! Good luck to you in your journey...sending positive thoughts your way.