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dahozho

missrugby

I wanted to be a mother more than anything in the world. I had lost two sons due to an extremely incompetent cervix. One at 19 weeks, and one at 23 weeks after a vaginal cerclage and hospital bedrest from 11 weeks to 23 weeks. I thought it would never happen for me. I was divorced after I lost my second son, and I was also getting older. With all of my problems I didn't want to wait for Mr. Right to come along. I decided to use donor sperm after having an invasive procedure done on my cervix BEFORE getting pregnant. The IUI worked the first time, and I now have a beautiful 2 1/2 year old son. On the days that it gets hard I wonder what it would be like to have the help from a husband, but seeing some of my married friends who have children a lot of them don't have anymore help than I do! Hahaha. I have been more fulfilled being a mother than I have with any other thing in my life. There are plenty of days where it is extremely hard, but at the end of the day it is well worth it, and I know I made the right decision. There is nothing more fulfilling than being a mother. I agree with you 100% on the budgeting, though. On paper it looked like it would be a breeze, but definitely to anyone who is thinking about it take your budget and double it. Daycare isn't cheap, insurance, diapers, wipes, medical bills, clothes, etc. I joke that I had so much more money before my son was born, but I wasn't as rich as I am now.

bridwelc

mnrobertsca

sander35

The decision to become a single parent was a difficult one but the best decision I ever made. Yes...there are some very difficult times, especially in the toddler stage. I have realized it is such an awesome responsibility to help this new little person learn about the world around him and how to navigate all the new things he's learning. I am truly amazed at how much work is involved. Yet, everyday when I see my son's gummy smile emerge as he learns something new, I know the hard work is worth it.

dreamweaver75

agrogg

dahozho

pranabiker

terri

I'm a single Mom, but I never wanted just one. I went the IVF route and prayed for 2 healthy sons and my prayers were answered! However, the donor ID option was a mandatory...for that just in case down the road...I couldn't consciously deprive them of that option. M & M only just turned 7 months yesterday but what personalities!! Funny story: They were laying on the floor facing each other being silent, staring each other down- Marty makes bubbles with his mouth and that makes Myles bust out laughing. He laughs for a little while and then they go silent again. Marty then farts and that causes Myles to bust out laughing again. Ha-ha. Next Marty rolls over putting his back to Myles...Myles then rolls over getting in arms length and bops him on the head. It was halarious watching them interact. They are entertaining each other right now while I chat online. I had saved up a small nest egg so I wouldn't have to return to work immediately, but the day finally came and they just started daycare on the 1st. The past 3 days I must of droped in on them a dozen times. They were content and being taken good care of. They comfort each other and that makes me feel so much better knowing they have each other there. In a nutshell they have completed my life and I wouldn't change a thing if had to do over again. And in all honesty, since this is all in the open now and because I have no fears...if my donor ever wanted to join my facebook page I wouldn't care.

staceygirard

I have to say YEAH!!! I too am so glad to be able to connect with people who have similar experiences. In my day to day life I have not yet met someone who has chosen this challenging yet incredibly joyous experience so this forum just what I was missing. My little girl is 2, and she has an older sister from a previous marriage. After a few years trying to date and meet someone I made the decision to have another on my own, and was blessed on the first try. I care for my two girls on my own, my family is so supportive with caring for them when I have to work, and though I'm always in need of rest, there isn't a moment of mommyhood I would ever trade. I LOVE the term donor daddy, thank-you so much for that, it will certainly be helpful as my girls grow and seek answers.

mary313

I so agree with this post and the replies! I got pregnant at 41 and 42 after each IUI. I lost the first one (well, it didn't grow after 7 weeks, so D/C)... and the second became my beloved 5 month old son... I cannot imagine life without this great boy! He has added so much to my life! He is literally a dream come true! It's been an adjustment after so many years of doing what i want, when i want, how i want... but... oh... to hear him laugh? See him smile at me? Gosh... the best feeling ever. I worry about him not having a father... but... i think ultimately, that he was so wanted and so loved will make being alive and here worth it... despite the cross he bears of having a donor father.

amyswv

Catca

Aimeemomof3