Telling people

maria2

Radarsmom

maria2

Radarsmom

bridwelc

maria2

Thanks bridwelc! I've been reading more and more books/websites and I'm feeling better. Thanks. Everyone's support is awesome! Thanks.

Catca

I've had the same policy as you all with being upfront and honest - I don't often volunteer it, but do answer questions when asked. The reactions I've received have been pretty varied. Usually positive from other women, but some women go a little overboard in telling me how much they admire my decision. I don't think we are heros for doing this, just as women who made what they felt was the best choice based on the circumstances. I have run across some very negative reactions from some men though who feel my decision somehow makes their role in a family less important which is obviously not true so I do think many people out there don't really understand what that we are just one of the many types of families out there. And I have run across a few christian fundamentalists who trust me, do not keep their opinions to themselves. The funniest response was from my niece who was 7 at the time she found I was pregnant (my son is 10 mos old now). "She said how can she be pregnant? She doesn't even have a boyfriend!" My sister gave a scientific explanation and she simply said "oh" and didn't ask any more questions and simply got excited about her new cousin's impending arrival.

Lenore

dfolden

Nurxel

Mealone

What a wonderful reading I found in here. Thank you so much.

maria2

tcrodg30

I was honest with my close friends and family from the very beginning, even planning stages. My daughter is now 15 months and I've moved to a different state. The questions are starting to come in. It was very akward at 1st. Not sure why that is since it's really no one's business, nor does it matter. My daughter is truly a blessing, regardless of sperm. I suppose it's more of a worry of how she'll be affected if others know and tell her before I feel she is ready to learn of her background. That's something I struggle with daily...when is a good age to have that conversation? Yikes! Wish me luck ladies.

Anne72

rhondab

Its to heartening to see the "older" women like myself having babies. I dont know you, just started thinking about this, but your inspirational!!!

DJ3196

happiedogg

Amirasmommy

robin

mommybug13

I am a single mother already to a beautiful little girl, and I know exactly where you are coming from. I was in an abusive relationship with her biological father and left while still pregnant, so I got those questions all the time. I simply told them that she didnt have a daddy and didnt need one. I grew up all my life without a father and became a strong, intelligent woman so I never saw the need for a man. Im actually considering going through the donor process within the next two years, and am more concerned with what to tell my family. I personally wouldnt worry about telling your co-workers until they ask. And then just the simple truth should be fine,at least that is what I would do.