At Home Insemination

leonasluv

My partner and I are just getting into this journey of starting a family. We really would rather do an at home insemination, but also want an annoymous donor. Can anyone tell me if The Fairfax Cyrobank will allow us to pick up sperm and complete our insemination at home? If anyone has any experience or other resources to help, we would greatly appreciate it!
Thanks
Eager Future Mommies

bluesky10

Most will let you, but I have yet to hear of any cases where an at home insemination worked. To be honesty you will be wasting alot of money going that route. If I were you I would go to a clinic.

somewhatordinary

My husband and I didn't go that route, but I do know a couple that did and it worked first time. The woman I know and her husband decided to go that route first because her sister and sister's partner have 2 children from home insemination. I was apprehensive, but there are people that do it and it works.

heidibee

You can pick up sperm and insem at home. One of my girlfriends does that. They save on shipping costs.

jenandsarah

I called them and as long as your GYN signs off on the release then you can pick it up or have it mailed to you from fairfax cryo and do you insems at home

Sue & Jodi

I don't want to discourage you, because I know that it can happen at home. However, my partner and I tried 10 times at home and none of them took. We finally went to a fertility clinic and we got pregnant within 3 tries. By the time we got to the clinic we were convinced that something was wrong with my partner and that we weren't going to get pregnant. It was an emotional roller coaster ride for us. It was horrible. After 2 tries at the clinic we decided to have some tests ran - everything came back normal. The tests ended up being unnecessary (and costly) because she got pregnant that next try.

I guess what I'm trying to say, is I completely understand wanting to try from home. It is an intimate process that you want to share with your partner and your partner alone. My advice to you is if you don't get pregnant after 4 tries at home, go find a fertility clinic. The roller coaster of emotions you will go through are horrendous and I don't wish them on my worst enemy. With that being said, I wish you the best of luck and hope you (as a couple) are one of the lucky ones and get pregnant at home on the first try. Best of luck!!!!

jenandsarah

Sue & Jodi,

My partner and I will begin the process in Feb- but before then we have been looking into everything and discussing our options..... She is carrying the baby and is dead set on doing at least 6 months of insems at home because she thinks its the right thing to do for her body. That is 1 insem a month for 6 months. She is 29 and I am 27. We have had numerous arguments over this topic because I want to go straight to IUI and invest money in a better chance of getting pregnant. I am also anticipating the months of not getting pregnant and being let down.... I have no idea how to go about trying to get her to change her mind. I wanna do what is best for her and us as a couple. Some people also believe that just because we are lesbians we are infertile???? We just need to find other ways to get sperm ;-) So her argument is, that doing insems at home is just like when straight people make love at home to make a baby.... what do you think?

Maybe if we just do 4 at home like you said and if that doesn't work go to the next route?

Thanks! Congrats on getting preggers ;-)

J&S

jenandsarah

Sue and Jodi,
I just read your story and I am so sorry, my heart breaks for you both. Just keep trying and when GOD knows it is right, your baby will be here..... my thoughts are with you 2

Sue & Jodi

Jen and Sarah,

Thanks for the kind words, we appreciate it. However, we are pregnant again and feel that this is our baby. It's really early yet (7 weeks), but we have to keep the hope that we don't lose our baby again. It is terrifying and exciting all at the same time.

As far as your situation goes, I was in the same boat you are. I wanted to go straight to the clinic and my partner Sue (she is carrying) did not. She was 29 and healthy as well and thought along the same lines. We discussed it and came to the conclusion that we would like to try the intimate route at home first. However, after a couple tries I was ready to go to the clinic again. It did cause some strife as she was still insisting on trying at home. My advice to you is definately try at home if your partner is dead set on doing so. Who knows, you could be one of the lucky ones. I really hope you are. I would try to follow the 4 month rule, but if she wants 6, maybe you can compromise on 5 months. You both have to be on the same page or it makes things really difficult.

My thing about trying at home was I never knew if I was thawing the sperm right. They give instructions and the instructions they give are to use some medical equipment. Well obviously we didn't have it. There are alternate instructions of table top thawing, but according to the fertility clinic the way you thaw it depends on the method they freeze it. So, I don't think its the same as a heterosexual couple trying at home, because the sperm is frozen. But I'll say again I've heard of people getting pregnant at home on the first try. We send you our best wishes and hope like hell you get pregnant right away!!!

Take care,

Jodi & Sue