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Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!

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Child Date of Birth

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Anonymous VS. Open

Greetings! I am new to this forum and would like to get the opinions of other single mothers on this subject. I have been thinking about a sperm donor for about 3 years now and have finally made the leap and will start trying next month. Of course, the decision was 3 years in the making and now it's here I'm excited, nervous and scared. But also hopeful. The only setback I'm having in my mind is choosing an anonymous/open donor. There's so many "what if's" and questions about both. Please share with me. I am between 2 donors, one of each. In the end, I know I will do my best to raise my child to understand what I had to do in order to create their life and be the best mommy I can to them. I really appreciate this forum and am looking forward to sharing more about my journey and seeing others journeys as well. Thanks! -C

Comments

  • ShariShari Junior Member
    I am a single mother of 7 year old twins. I wasn't given the chance of choosing an open donor back then. I actually just found out that I can find out about siblings from the same donor and am looking forward to that. I am sure that which ever way you choose, will work out for you and your future child/children. The best of luck to you on your amazing journey!
  • latebloomerlatebloomer Senior Member Senior Member
    I too chose the ID option donor and am in my 2WW period right now. I find out on Monday. The only thing that I wasn't so sure about was is that I've seen lots of posts where people have used the same donors and they talk and have let the children meet, etc. I'm not sure I'm down with that yet so I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. I think you have to decide on so many other factors going thru this process I didn't let this one be the final decision maker for me. It just so happened when I narrowed it down he was an ID donor. The other thing to keep in mind is that by the time your child is older technology is so advanced that all of our business will be online anyway:) So maybe they will still be able to find out. Best of luck to you on your decision and good luck on your journey:)
  • maria2maria2 Senior Member Senior Member
    I actually did not let that be a factor in picking my donor. I wanted to pick the best donor possible. Also, after reading several posts for a while...I've realized that there are a lot of people using the same donor (not just from this site but other sites)....so I hopefully have the option of meeting donor sibs like "radarsmom" has :D ...I actually think that option is wonderful! Good luck!
  • hopefulhopeful Junior Member
    Best of luck to you on your fantastic journey! I am about to do my first insemination with an ID Options donor in a couple of days. I have never used "donor sperm" before but I feel that I have :) I am a single mom of a beautiful 5 year old daughter whose father is in no way involved in her life. He is on her birth certificate and she knows as much about him as she asks to know but she has never actually met him and probably never will. This was not my plan when I conceived but it is the way that it has turned out. I remain in close contact with him and his family so that I will always know his whereabouts for when she comes of age and would maybe like to meet him. He has agreed to that. For all intents and purposes he was an "ID Options Donor" (alhough I didn't know it at the time...lol). My daughter is raised with ALOT of love and has many extended family/family friends who let her know how much she is wanted. Of course, she has asked in the past "Why don't I have a daddy and you do and all of my friends do". I addressed that important question and, at the moment, she understands without feeling that she was abandoned. She does, however, like to ask questions about her father and his family such as basic things like what does he look like and what does he do for a living, etc. I can only imagine that she will grow into the type of young adult who will want to at least meet him one time and I do not want to deny her that option if that is what she choses. I, therefore, decided that I would like to offer my next (potential) child the same option even though this child will not have a "father" but rather a donor and that is a big difference. That is MY decision though, each family is different, each child is different and every child is raised differently. So whatever works best for you is fantastic.....its all about LOVE :)
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