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The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
Questions about your forum access? Email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Follow these steps to join a private donor group:
1) Press "Join" at the right of the group
2) Once prompted to confirm your request please list this information so we can verify your information:
Name (under which the vial was purchased)
Clinic Name
Donor number
Child Date of Birth
*If you are looking to start a private group for a PRS donor please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com with the above information and that you are looking for a PRS group*
If you have any questions about the verification process please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Donor 2750?
zahava1980
Junior Member
Hi,
Me and my partner are expecting a little boy in 3 weeks (May31st) and are looking to connect with anyone else who may have a child or is pregnant with donor 2750. We have been able to successfully connect with 2 other wonderful women on facebook who also have boys with this donor. Please PM me if your interested in connecting
~Sara
Charlotte, N.C
Me and my partner are expecting a little boy in 3 weeks (May31st) and are looking to connect with anyone else who may have a child or is pregnant with donor 2750. We have been able to successfully connect with 2 other wonderful women on facebook who also have boys with this donor. Please PM me if your interested in connecting
~Sara
Charlotte, N.C
Comments
(okay...."compound" was a bit dramatic
For me personally, I would rather my daughter know who are her siblings from the same donor. I would hate for her to someday end up in a relationship with somebody that may be her sibling.
I think keeping hid from a child that they came about via donor sperm all together is wrong. I can see not wanting them to have access to the donor, but to not explain where they came from, and to not provide that donor number so they know incase the person they end up with also came from a donor is asking for issues. With out providing it the child may come back and resent the parent for lack of info.
You can't control information coming to your kid child or teen child or young adult child or adult child from so many sources. In 20 years, it may not matter if the donor wanted to be anonymous with technology and cultural changes around donors. I just can't see the logic with your concern. A child meeting a donor could go wrong in many ways or it could be supremely meaningful for the child. To worry that the donor might give info about siblings seems off to me and so very specific. What if your 18 year WANTS to meet the "siblings"? If he/she does not, then they won't care about the info. Any 18 year old who knows they come from donor sperm is going to know that there are others that came from the same sperm out there. I think you're wanting to control what happens when the child is an adult at 18. The whole point of making the age 18 is that they can select for themselves, with of course your input and guidance. But they are going to live their adult lives controlling if they track down siblings or not. You withhold stuff at your own peril.
"What will stop him?" Ok take a deep breath. This question and the wording makes me think you maybe need to talk to someone about this. You can go see a therapist experienced in donor and fertility issues and get counseling on these topics that are concerning you, before making your purchase. They're out there just to help people work through things like this.
Remember these are just friendly exchanges and sounding boards. But we all may be raging on hormones from time to time, which make these discussions passionate.
Opps gotta go take one of my crazy pills now, Prometrium suppositories...my TWW started TODAY
Baby dust to all!
Hey I don't think of therapy as anything negative at all. In fact, my fertility center requires everyone to go through the type of therapy that I just described and I found it very helpful, which is why I mentioned it to you. They want everyone to talk about and resolve these very issues because they know how very real these issues are for people. I know in society people have this phrase "You need therapy" and view it so negatively but that was not at all where I was coming from. I really really think this type of therapy is helpful. I have a friend who has a boy through donor sperm and was not required to have this type of session and it just didn't occur to her without it being offered and she really wishes that she would have done it because now she is thinking of things that had not occurred to her. It's a place to talk about ID Option, donor siblings, other aspects of picking a donor, telling the child about the donor, infertility stress, and on and on. Very good. I just meant to recommend it, not to offend or be negative. My apologies. I have some of the same types of questions or lack of clarity.
But if my wording was kinda short, sorry, I should have been a bit more careful.
I was wondering if anybody that used this donor would be kind enough to fill me in on the total motile sperm counts for this donor. 2750
Hope everybody is doing well where ever they might fall in this crazy journey
Lots of baby dust to all!