How important are lifetime photos to you?

lauraleigh

The donor we are choosing has them. However, we don't know if we want to see them. We want to look at our children and only see us - not the donor. But, we are also wondering if we are being ridiculous. Thoughts?

Cmartin6706

tillie

madlub143

I totally agree with Tillie. My partner and I will only use a donor that has lifetime photos available. We honestly want to know as much as possible about the donor, including what he looks like, his interests, hobbies, etc. We both want to have the least amount of "unknowns" as possible. We will save his photos in a file with all our donor's information so if our child ever asks, we can show him/her. Also, by purchasing adult photos, we were able to easily choose a donor that looks like he would fit in with my partner's family (since I will be carrying). Hope this helps!

babynumber2

I decided against looking at any photos, because I too don't want to be thinking that the baby looks just like the donor and not me or my son. I am not in anyway trying to seperate the fact that this will be a "donor" baby, but I am hoping to be able to point out characteristics that are just like us instead of just like someone the child will never know.

sibemom

tinymouthwash

"It's just sperm. It's like donating an organ." As a medical professional, that really resonates with me! If my child needed a bone marrow transplant, I would be thankful to the donor, but I don't think I would care much more than that. Thanks, Tillie, that makes me feel so much better!!!

lauraleigh

robin

moewhit

activec

Dani314

Do to the fact that we decided to use someone who isn't an ID donor, we want as much as possible about the donor. Everything we have is put away and when a kid is old enough to want to know, then we have the most possible information. That is just the way I look at it. I would also strongly recommend them because we got a couple different photo set and please remember that you are taking someone's opinion as fact. I have found that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. In my experience, lets just say I was shocked at the description versus the photo. If a certain look is important to you, I'd get them. To us it was a surprise, but not a deal breaker.

paulml02

Just a curious question. We ordered out donor's lifetime photo's today and I guess we should get them in email tomorrow. I was just wondering for those of you who have purchased them, how it was set up. From my understanding it is on a pdf file like a collage of photos for a variety of different ages. Were you able to drag individual pictures from it and make copies of it?(@ walgreens etc) We would like to have the actual photos in a photo album. I completely understand the agreement of not sharing the photos, we just want it for our own records. If not, then that's okay. Thanks for any feedback!!