Pros and Cons of ID Option

lauraleigh

tillie

lauraleigh

babynumber2

I decided against ID option on my doctor's advice. Her reasoning was that just because the guy is willing to be ID option now, he might change his mind in 18 years. And, if my child were to be the 10th or 20th or 50th child to call him, he might even be less willing to communicate with them. My plan is to tell my child (if this all works) that he was conceived because someone very special was willing to give mommy the option to have a baby even though there wasn't a daddy in our lives (then).

sibemom

lauraleigh

redolfin26

we specifically chose a donor with ID options...we figured the xtra cost was only the price of a few nice dinners and that it was not our right to take away the possibility of our child one day connecting with the donor...no one can forsee the future but i hope he lives up to his intent if my child wants that info...we can live by what ifs but if we chose a NON ID options donor than fate is sealed...this way, with the options, there is just that...options and possibilities and not our right to make that final decision for another person

lauraleigh