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The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
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2) Once prompted to confirm your request please list this information so we can verify your information:
Name (under which the vial was purchased)
Email
Clinic Name
Donor number
Child Date of Birth
*If you are looking to start a private group for a PRS donor please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com with the above information and that you are looking for a PRS group*
If you have any questions about the verification process please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
Questions about your forum access? Email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Follow these steps to join a private donor group:
1) Press "Join" at the right of the group
2) Once prompted to confirm your request please list this information so we can verify your information:
Name (under which the vial was purchased)
Clinic Name
Donor number
Child Date of Birth
*If you are looking to start a private group for a PRS donor please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com with the above information and that you are looking for a PRS group*
If you have any questions about the verification process please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Selection strategy suggestions?
Amirasmommy
Senior Member Senior Member
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to choose a donor? I'm feeling a tad overwhelmed! I got the unlimited Access on Friday thinking this would make the process easier and all it did was increase my favorites list from 6-26...nearly eliminating most of my original favs. Any suggestions are appreciated. TIA!
Comments
I definitely think you shouldn't look at any adult photos until afterwards. I did look at childhood photos because that made more sense to me to get an idea of what my child may or may not look like. It just put some sort of face to it all.
I looked at medical history...but I did take into consideration of the ages of the grandparents or great grandparents because I don't know of many perfectly "healthy" 90 year olds.
I looked at height because I'm 5'9''...I looked at hair, eye color. I looked at it all. But, honestly, in the end...that stuff didn't matter. All that mattered most was medical history and personality. The donors personality traits definitely mattered to me. Also, what the staff said about them mattered to me. It was nice to hear someone else giving you their opinion on them.
In the end...I chose the one that jumped out at me the most. Also, you can call Fairfax and find out how many reported pregnancies the donor has. The donor I am using now has double the amount of reported pregnancies than the first donor I was using had. Also, I just had my 4th IUI yesterday and the #'s were outstanding. So, if you get a good one stick with him. The first donor I was using...I got a horrible vial from. It was only 3mill. They guarantee 10mill. They were great at giving me a refund though. But, it was just a lot of time, money, emotion, and effort all invested that I lost that month due to the poor sample.
Hope some of that helps you a little bit!
I had a tough time with this as well. The only criteria I entered were Caucasian and blue eyes. I just started weeding them out from there. I only looked at those available for IUI and, at first, only looked at those with confirmed pregnancies.
I also asked a friend to look through my favorites and with her input, I was able to weed a lot more out due to medical issues. Some of my faves had a lot of heart problems or a lot of cancer in the family, both of which can be hereditary. That was something I missed the first time around.
I finally got them narrowed down to four and now I feel I've got them narrowed down to two: one with confirmed pregnancies and one without.
It was a great deal more work than I ever imagined it would be!!
Good luck!
I am referring to CMV status. This is some kind of a virus that if you are negative (i also am) and you choose donor that is CMV positive your child has the risk of having birth defects. It is pretty serious stuff. I would recommend finding out from your doctor if you are cmv negative or positive.
IgG positive means they were exposed to the respiratory virus at one time and their body has developed antibodies as a result. IgM positive means they are currently exposed. If I were IgG positive, then I would have to be more concerned and they would advise me to find a donor who was negative / negative.
For the Rh-factor, my blood type is A- and all of my favorites donors have a positive blood type. So I will need one shot at some point in my pregnancy. This is not the great concern it was years ago, apparently.