discussing your choice

stayingpositive

Hi -

I was wondering if anyone had any tips on approaching this topic with family. They seem to be a little judgmental of our possibility of using a donor. We have the option of IVF still, but are leaning more towards using a donor for financial and emotional reasons. Some of the family members have been involved with the IVF process in the past, but seem to think it's a "walk in the park." There questioning of me on when we are going to start has started to affect my step-daughter, who says she doesn't want us using a donor. Not sure how to handle this. Any suggestions?

hopefulchar

My best advice for you after the last five months of trying with my husband would be to do what is best for you and your partner. My husbands mother was very supportive of our decision when I told her what we decided 6 months ago. I even remember her saying that our baby is her grandchild no matter where the sperm came from. She said she would love this child as if it were her own blood. That was 6 months ago and it was also the very last time I spoke with her. She won't call me but still does talk to my husband. I'm so glad that we decided to start our family irregardless of what anybody else thought or said. The thought of missing out of such a beautiful thing because of a selfish MIL or other family member is tragic. Remember that this journey will not matter the second you meet your beautiful baby. Do what you feel is right in your heart and I wouldn't discuss it with anybody that you know might not be supportive. I'm here if you have any other questions. I'm excited that your here and ready to begin this journey. There are so many amazing supportive woman on here that will understand exactly what you are going thru.
Charlotte