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IUI for the 5th time?
moewhit
Senior Member
So I went to my original doctor to discuss my options to move forward after 3 Clomid cycles and 1 Menopur injectible cycle all where unsuccessful. And I also had two cancelled cycles due to hyperstimulation 1 on Clomid and 1 on Menopur. The donor numbers have been great each time except for the first Clomid cycle.
After moving back to my home state, I had another initial consult and basically the doctor will do whatever I want. I don't want to recreate the wheel but what I've been doing doesn't work. He suggested IVF with egg donor with the 100% guarantee or money back. Well money back is like 29K!!! NOT an option for me. Then he said that by the time I go through the adoption process it would be close to that. REALLY?? I haven't done my research on that but does anyone on this forum have an idea how much domestic adoption usually costs??
Then I asked if the fact that I'm healthy and had 4 unsuccessful cycles mean this is a sign of infertility? He looked me square in the face and said yes. I was crushed. I have no health issues but because my eggs are 41 years old, this may not happen for me. So pissed what the hell was I doing 10 years ago??? Oh, yeah dating losers and knowing I didn't want to have kids with "him". :x
Doc said we could do a second cycle on injectibles, he suggested Femera, but I told him I have 10-20 days worth of Menopur sitting at home. He said that we could use the Menopur but he will start me out on like 1/3 of the amount of what the previous fertility center started me on. Femera was suggested because it is more user friendly but at this point I'm so used to mixing and dosing the Menopur that's totally fine with me.
I had the worst AF :x this past week, bled like a stuffed pig for several days and CRAMPS!!! Both never occurred in the past. But the meds jacked me up! I'm finally starting to feel like a human after my hormone levels were through the roof! Will certainly need time off to give these weary ovaries a break from all this stuff! I will try again in two cycles, late October.
Good luck ladies and lots of sticky baby dust!!
All the best!
Moe
After moving back to my home state, I had another initial consult and basically the doctor will do whatever I want. I don't want to recreate the wheel but what I've been doing doesn't work. He suggested IVF with egg donor with the 100% guarantee or money back. Well money back is like 29K!!! NOT an option for me. Then he said that by the time I go through the adoption process it would be close to that. REALLY?? I haven't done my research on that but does anyone on this forum have an idea how much domestic adoption usually costs??
Then I asked if the fact that I'm healthy and had 4 unsuccessful cycles mean this is a sign of infertility? He looked me square in the face and said yes. I was crushed. I have no health issues but because my eggs are 41 years old, this may not happen for me. So pissed what the hell was I doing 10 years ago??? Oh, yeah dating losers and knowing I didn't want to have kids with "him". :x
Doc said we could do a second cycle on injectibles, he suggested Femera, but I told him I have 10-20 days worth of Menopur sitting at home. He said that we could use the Menopur but he will start me out on like 1/3 of the amount of what the previous fertility center started me on. Femera was suggested because it is more user friendly but at this point I'm so used to mixing and dosing the Menopur that's totally fine with me.
I had the worst AF :x this past week, bled like a stuffed pig for several days and CRAMPS!!! Both never occurred in the past. But the meds jacked me up! I'm finally starting to feel like a human after my hormone levels were through the roof! Will certainly need time off to give these weary ovaries a break from all this stuff! I will try again in two cycles, late October.
Good luck ladies and lots of sticky baby dust!!
All the best!
Moe
Comments
Sounds like you've got a real handle on things and that's a good thing. Yes adopting is very pricey and just as emotional as what we're already going through. I started out thinking I'd adopt but then when I found out that they normally use 25% of your adjusted gross income as rough figure of what to expect to spend I was like well IUI is definitely a cheaper option for me! So off on this path I went. My doctor is not giving up yet and neither am I and honestly if it gets to that point where she thinks I can't do it on my own I think I will definitely explore donor eggs because I would still rather carry my own baby. Not saying that they're arent loving children who need to be or are ready to be adotped, this is just my personal choice.
I have made a decision though that this next cycle is going to be drug free other than the trigger shot I always get (unless the doctor has a new secret potion for me!) I'm so tired of the shots plus I'm out of everything with the exception of a couple of doses and my body responded differently (I went from CD 3-8 the first time I used them & got BFP and second time I went CD 3-10 which I thought was way too long and got BFN). I think just doing my acupuncture and yoga is going to be the course of action this go round plus I still have one more out of pocket anyway if it doesn't work. My acupuncturist is on an unexpected medical leave with her husband so she referred me to another one so I'm hoping to see her this coming week and all the way up to and after the IUI this time.
If the doc is willing to trade you Femara for your Menopur then I'd do it, otherwise I'd use it up girl! Just the fact that he is going to decrease the dosage and adjust accordingly is a great thing. That's great news for your friend and good that she was considering your feelings. Speaks volumes to what kind of friend she is and who knows, maybe you'll catch up with her soon:)
Best of luck to you Moe and even though you aren't moving forward until October, please stop by and keep us company! We'll need your support:)
I pray that no one reads this reply as being harsh. I truly don't intend to misrepresent things in a negative light, this has just been "what I have seen".
I'm so sorry....I feel your pain....I'm going on my 4th IUI soon and feel very similar to how you feel, not sure what to do. I'm pretty sure that if this 4th IUI does not work, I'll move on to adoption. Insurance doesn't pay for the injectables and I just paid over $1300 today for meds. My 3 previous IUIs were with Clomid 50 mg and luckily it was $5 copay for those....but obviously unsuccessful.
I have worked in adoptions for over 6 years through the County (doing foster care adoptions)...which also includes birth parents who want to relinquish their newborn babies. Another thing I wanted to point out is AAP.
From website, http://dcfs.co.la.ca.us/adoptions/
The Adoption Assistance Program (AAP) is a federal program of financial assistance for adoptive children. Although there is eligibility criteria, all adopted children who were dependents of the court qualify for AAP benefits.
The adoptive child is eligible to receive AAP until the age 18. In some cases, where the child has a mental or physical disability, he or she might receive AAP Program benefits until age 21. AAP will also pay up to eighteen months in a licensed residential treatment facility if the child has a documented need for residential treatment.
A child who qualifies for AAP benefits is also eligible for health care services through the Medi-Cal program. Medi-Cal can be used for most necessary medical services. When the adopting family has private medical insurance, Medi-Cal can be used as a supplemental plan.
I'd just read and ask questions about adoption in your state/county...
http://www.nacac.org/about/about.html
http://www.adopt.org/assembled/home.html
http://www.childsworld.ca.gov/PG1303.htm
Wishing you all lots of baby dust and luck! Remember stay encouraged!!
M
Anne72, is it time to test yet? I'm wishing you and everyone else on this journey lots of sticky baby dust. Good luck and remember to be encouraged! It WILL happen when it's supposed to happen.
All the best!
Moe
I'm really trying to boost my odds of success this cycle.
I started acupuncture on a weekly basis last month.
After the IUI, I inserted a cervical cup and kept my hips elevated almost a half hour. I also did pelvic floor exercises (Kegals) Not sure if there's anything behind this but it cant hurt.
Now I'm just taking it easy, not rushing around or going to work.
I plan on going to acupuncture tonight and I've got my pineapple that I'm about to slice the core out of. Oh by the way, yesterday my left ovary was VIBRATING. At first I thought that I forgot to remove my beeper from work. It was not strong but sort of low pitch vibrations that were very weird. Today, not so much but definately last night. Perhaps the left was doing some last minute growing. But I certainly had mild throbbing on the right last night which felt more like ovulation. Maybe I'll shoot from both ovaries?? TWINS??!!
I would certainly be blessed with whatever I'm supposed to have.....
Here's to hoping we all get our BFP's in two weeks!!!
Moe!
Sounds like you, maria2 and latebloomer area all in the 2WW together and I couldn't be more excited for the three of you! I'll be thinking of you all, sending positive vibes, and hopes of very sticky baby dust! {{HUGS}}
Best Wishes,
Jaime
Here's to that pumpkin seed or two sticking! I am sending you lots of baby dust! I am hoping that you will be able to join me in this land of BFP's. I have looked at a few pregnancy forums but they are complicated to navigate and honestly I feel such a connection to all of you that I would like to have a buddy through all of this!
Here's to a positive end to the tww for all of you, Moe, latebloomer and Maria and charlotte, I know you won't be far behind!
LOTS of BABY DUST!
Robin
Thanks everyone for positive thoughts/wishes!!! I really hope this is it for me! Otherwise, I too will be signing up for adoptions probably in beginning of 2012...
Here's to a BFP for all of us!!!! Keeping positive thoughts for us all!
Moe