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The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
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someone wake me up from this nightmare!
howdy
Member Member
soooooo my 3rd IUI didn't work. AF showed up today. 
I don't know why this keeps happening. I know Im not the only girl in the world to get negative after negative, but this is just ridiculous! I am at a loss for words. I want to cry. I am angry. i seriously thought this cycle was THE one.
I don't know what our next step should be?
Should i: :?
- move to injectables instead of 100mg clomid (even though I produced 2 mature follies w clomid)?
- move to IVF knowing that it's going to cost me and arm and a leg... ugh! not sure if insurance will cover it.
I just wish there was a way for me to KNOW what I need to do next time to improve my chances. Do I follow a special diet? Do i so a special ritual? Do i need to wear "pink or blue" to my IUI? (i know this one is silly.. but it's just that i am THAT confused as to why i keep getting negatives.)
please help.. injectables? continue clomid? ivf?
my bday is this Sat.. not looking forward to it.
I don't know why this keeps happening. I know Im not the only girl in the world to get negative after negative, but this is just ridiculous! I am at a loss for words. I want to cry. I am angry. i seriously thought this cycle was THE one.
I don't know what our next step should be?
Should i: :?
- move to injectables instead of 100mg clomid (even though I produced 2 mature follies w clomid)?
- move to IVF knowing that it's going to cost me and arm and a leg... ugh! not sure if insurance will cover it.
I just wish there was a way for me to KNOW what I need to do next time to improve my chances. Do I follow a special diet? Do i so a special ritual? Do i need to wear "pink or blue" to my IUI? (i know this one is silly.. but it's just that i am THAT confused as to why i keep getting negatives.)
please help.. injectables? continue clomid? ivf?
my bday is this Sat.. not looking forward to it.
Comments
Just a thought since acupuncture is supposed to help with blood flow, balance and getting those sticky beans to stick!
Try to stay positive, though i'm sure that's easier said than done and good luck with your next IUI!!
After every negative i always go into panic mode and fear it will never happen for me..and wonder what can/could i do to make the outcome better. What we all need to remember is 80% of people that use donor sperm get pregnant..just happens for some slower than others. My advice to you is spend tomorrow doing something that makes you happy..take a mental health day (haha my way of saying take the day off) and get yourself feeling positive and happy. Enjoy a glass of wine with your husband and make a list of all the things you two have to be happy for. Focus on that..what you have not what you dont have! Be positive because it will take you a long way..be excited to one day hold your beautiful baby.
Im here if you need to vent..
Charlotte
I would try the injections first.
I think it is very dangerous for somebody who is not a fertility doctor to make a statement like you did to howdy. Every doctor has a different way of going about this process and you should allow them to do there job without putting doubt into their patients head! I think all she needed was support from a group of women going through the same thing. If you would have wrote this to me it would have set me into panic of why i had 2 follies and you had four and that is just not fair. There is nothing wrong with 2 follies at her dosage as per my doctor..Just because you had four or five doesnt mean that EVERY woman should have that many or it will not work for them!!!!
@hopefulchar & bluesky- eeeekk i hope there won't be any back and forth words going on. I totally respect yalls opinions and I want to be as open with everyone. We are all adults here and infertility is such a horrible thing to go thru. I'm sure that sometimes we type things that make it come off a wrong way but really don't mean it to be rude.
with that being said... i will wait and hear back from my Dr as to what he recommends with the clomid. I actually reacted very well with the 100mg clomid. I was able to get 4 follies.. but I guess only 2 matured. It's kind of rough because everyone is different. So who's to say what exactly will or will not work. I think with IF, it's anyone's game. I've been to other forums and they've gotten positives with thier first IUI (lucky!) and for some it's taken them multiple times. I even read a lady that did it 9 TIMES! yes.. 9!!!
I'm hanging in there. It is rough to start over and my head is spinning but i am glad i have forums to turn to if i ever have any doubts. i picture my baby and i know that baby is is my near future. Every day i get closer and closer... i know it.
thank u again to everyone! any more suggestions.. please let me know! i am open to ANYTHING!!
Infertility is an emotional rollercoaster for me and the smallest things can make me snap. That being said I apologize if I offended anybody earlier.
I am so sorry! I also got a bfn last week for my 3rd iui. I too thought that it had worked! It will happen for you!
My suggestion for you: next step stay positive and ask to have a consultation with your doctor and explain your concerns. Ask if there is anything else you could be doing. Ask if the doctor feels that the number of follicles is ok and if he thinks that all of your hormone levels are ok. I think it is ok to talk to your doctor and explain your concerns so they can help alleviate some of them! I get to talk to my doc at each visit because he is the one that does the ultrasounds but if I need to spend a longer period of time with him I ask for a consultation. I have been able to talk to him about meds and doing a back to back iui during my ultrasounds but talking about my levels was more intense and talking about options required a consultation.
You sound more positive today! Keep that up. Give yourself the right to grieve and have a happy birthday! Maybe you will get a belated birthday gift next month!
Robin
Yes it definitely feels like a nightmare but we are all here to help each other so feel free to reach out whenver you are frustrated. I think the thing for me was that I never thought that IUI wouldn't work for me since I got a green light after my CD3 & CD 21 abd HSG tests so in my head I was like ok I can do this but I never prepared for it not to happen on the first try. I did the first 2 tries naturally and both were BFN so I took the next month off and went back to the doc for a consultation and had her look at every test to make sure none of my results were borderline and would be a cause for concern or maybe a repeat and everything was fine so then I asked her about the donor I was using and she asked if he had confirmed pregnancies and he did so we stuck with the same donor and moved to injectibles and I got my BFP. Sadly though it ended in MC at 8 weeks so after getting back to normal I am back at it again and the first cycle was a bust. I was kind of frustrated but also know I have to be realistic. I had to completely start over b/c the donor I was using is no longer available but I sucked it up and moved on but since this last try was a BFN on injectibles again I talked to the nurse and we compared the new donor's numbers to the old donor's numbers when I got the BFP and they are almost exact so I'll stay using that donor. I also introduced acupunture for that 3rd IUI. I went 1 x per week for 3 weeks prior to the IUI and then I did it 3 days after. I didn't get to do that this last time b/c my lady was on medical leave but she's back so we're trying to do the same thing for this next one. One thing to note, my doctor would not put me on clomid because she said since I ovulate on my own and my cycles were regular it could have the opposite effect which we didn't want which is why I went to the injectibles.
I would definitely express your concerns to your doc and do as much research and ask as many questions as you need to ease your mind. I think what most of us get frustrated about is that the doctor is not able to tell us WHY we don't get pregnant on the first or second try and because the doctor does not tell us "well you can't get pregnant because of X" then we just expect it to happen which I don't think is unreasonable, it just not the reality for most of us. Are you taking a prenatal? I would ask the doc about that and about your vitamin D level. Way back when we all got active on this board that topic was brought up and some studies suggest that basically if your level is deficient it could cause fertility issues but it's an easy fix by taking a supplement so it's worth a shot to have that tested and/or see what your doctor thinks about that.
Best of luck to you and hang in there!