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when it just won't work
tryinalone
Junior Member Junior Member
Hi ladies,
I have been going at this for over a year now and have six failed iui's. Every month everything looks good, clomid has helped to produce multiple eggs, but nothing happens. After the first three, single iui's, I tried doing them back-to-back (2 iui's each cycle). Of course insurance won't cover anything when your single so i am about out of funds, so IVF is not going to be a current option. I tried reflexology massage, grape juice, pineapple, and cough syrup. I have tried a few different donor, both with and without reported pregnancies.
Has anyone had any luck after 6 iui's? Is it worth one more try?
I have already made an appt for accupuncture, but if anyone has ANY suggestions that may help, PLESAE let me know.
I have been going at this for over a year now and have six failed iui's. Every month everything looks good, clomid has helped to produce multiple eggs, but nothing happens. After the first three, single iui's, I tried doing them back-to-back (2 iui's each cycle). Of course insurance won't cover anything when your single so i am about out of funds, so IVF is not going to be a current option. I tried reflexology massage, grape juice, pineapple, and cough syrup. I have tried a few different donor, both with and without reported pregnancies.
Has anyone had any luck after 6 iui's? Is it worth one more try?
I have already made an appt for accupuncture, but if anyone has ANY suggestions that may help, PLESAE let me know.
Comments
I can only imagine how frustrated and discouraged you may be. I know that I have read on this forum that for some women it took 6-8 times before it took. Unfortunately none of us have that crystal ball! Boy do I wish I had. Remember for the average couple it can take 6 months the same amount of time that you have tried. Have you sat down and discussed your concerns with your doctor to find out what he or she says. Does your doc think there could be another issue or is it just that the stars have not aligned for you? I wish it was just egg meets sperm and bang your pregnant. There are things that we have no control over that have to be in align.
Keep your head up! Picture that baby in your arms and it will happen! Remember that 6 times is not an outrageous number of iui attempts it just seems overwhelming too us! It does NOT mean that it won't happen! It just means it hasn't happened YET!
Lots of baby dust too you!
Robin
It can happen..and WILL happen
Baby Dust to all of us!!!
"Infertility - The medically documented inability to conceive with unprotected sexual intercourse between a male and female partner for a period of at least 12 months. The inability to conceive may be due to either the male or female partner."
Their coverage for infertility counseling, testing, and treatment carries the caveat:
"If testing is required, cost sharing may apply as outlined under Diagnostic Services. Treatment includes coverage for the correction of a
physical or medical problem associated with infertility. Infertility drug therapy may or may not be covered depending on your group’s
prescription drug program."
So even if I try for a year w/ IUI, too bad for me.
Robin,
Thanks for words of encouragement!
I'm giving it one more try this cycle. I will talk wth the doc tomorrow and make an accupuncture appointment.
Fingers crossed!
Otherwise, I need some time to save for ivf
I see this question was asked awhile ago but I just joined and am reading through some of the posts. I tried 5 IUIs to no avail. I decided to try accupuncture weekly for about four months then went in for my 6th IUI (also with a different donor this time) and it worked. I was told it could take 9 to 12 tries. So please don't give up. I know how discouraging it can be but all I can say is if you've done all of the appropriate tests and everything is fine with you and your body then it will work if you keep going. I say trust it will happen when it's supposed to (and it will!)
I'm unmarried as well and my insurance has the same caveat. I simply said that I've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend for that long - no need to prove it or provide a marriage certificate. In my case it is true, but don't know how your ins. co. could prove otherwise.
Here's what she typed out from different ladies on the forum:
I tried 5 IUIs to no avail. I decided to try accupuncture weekly for about four months then went in for my 6th IUI (also with a different donor this time) and it worked. I was told it could take 9 to 12 tries. So please don't give up
I know the pain of the monthly negatives...or Bloody show, meaning something took but didn't continue. It's aweful and leads to feeling desperate. I did 9 IUI attempts. My son was # 9. I was ready to try ivf with an egg donor... I didn't believe the ninth attempt worked but a little voice popped into my head one night..."Heh mom, I'm here!"
My partner and I had the same problem. We had our first child in 2008. It took us 7 tries using IUI with a fertility specialist
Good luck to all of you out there and stay positive....it took up 14 attempts to get pregnant with our now 4 yr old and only 4 tries with our 2 yr old.
.. I succeeded on my 7th IUI - so never give up! I tried a couple natural (unmedicated) IUI's By medicated, I meant injectables... I succeeded on my 7th IUI -
We are on our 7th IUI.Yikes! FAST FORWARD 2 WEEKS.... Well girls, drumroll please!! Survey says, B to the F to the P!!:P The miracle we have been waiting so long for is here. I'm still in shock!!
IUI #6 I was again on Clomid plus I did a couple ultrasounds and a trigger shot to time things just right...that was my 1st BFP.
It took us five tries--3 with clomid and 2 with injectibles until I conceived and I was 42 at the time. I'm amazed but it worked!! Best of luck to you
I was using a previous donor and switched after 6 unsuccessful attempts. I got pregnant on the first insemination
We went through nine attempts with our first donor, then switched to another and were successful the first try.
hopefulchar
I just have been looking around on TV and around me and see babies everywhere....or reminders of babies....just realized that I can't imagine not being a mom...I don't know how many IUIs are in my future b/c insurance covers none of the injectables.... :x but i know I will do one more...and we'll see after that. hopefully i'll get the BFP then!
good luck ladies...stay encouraged and positive!!!!
On a happy note..I am so glad to hear that you are doing so much better...i knew it was just a matter of time until i heard from you again. I knew you just needed to cool off and regroup. Your friend that is on her 9th iui is she also using donor sperm? Tell her that I too am on lucky number 9 and i feel it in my bones this time. THings seem to be changing and i know a positive is right around the corner. I will have a baby next christmas...i know it!
I hear you on the injectables not being covered...that is why we never did them before. My insurance actually covers nothing! I have been on the resolve website and have signed many petitions to help get laws passed to help the insured get the insurance they deserve.
I have started injectables and a trigger this cycle and I hope and Pray that that is the boost needed to get my bfp. My thyroid is also at a good place so.....HERE IS TO MY CHRISTMAS MIRACLE!
Maria - So happy to welcome you back to the quest. January will be lucky!
Yes, my friend is using donor sperm...she bought from fairfax and then changed to another cryobank in california (where we live)....she's doing her injectables now, so her IUI should be in another week and a half.
Ok, I just signed the letters to support the Family Act of 2011....if others want to sign it:
http://www.resolve.org
Thanks for sharing that! I hope it'll help us all with no insurance coverage for fertility!!!
Thanks Anne! Good luck to you both!!!
If you are willing to take a lone and are 38 y/o or under, please consider IVF with Shady Grove Fertility-they have a money back guarantee program. I did 5 IUIs and spent 7K, mostly on fertility injections without success. I am 44 y/o and my dr. said to me that if I were to use a donor egg, that I have a significant (he said 98% chance) of conceiving. So, I am now using a donor egg, donor sperm and I have a scheduled embryo transfer date this friday, Dec 16th. Don't give up. One way or another, you will have a child.
Here's to me and you in January. I will be taking off two cycles to just relax and think some more about this journey. I want to really chart my cycle this next time using BBT and the OPK's. It is all about the timing and I have thought that I have been too every time. So, January it is. A BFP would be a great way to start off 2012. Just think ladies, we can be those pregnant women in bikinis!
I love it! For once I won't have to worry about my belly being too big!
Also sweetpea....if you have a smartphone, there are a lot of apps that help you predict....i have one on my droid that i like a lot....i input temps, mucus, your menstrual period, and many many other symptoms. i love it. it's not perfect, but gives you a good idea. then you can see it...mine shows a calendar as well as a chart to show you months of your input...love that.
unfortunately, i'm not under 38! but thanks for the input...
I don't know if it's even accurate but I found this Ovulation Calculator one on WebMD... FYI!
Its my mothers birthday and she has been as hopeful as me and I was hoping to be able to gt her a pandora bead to let her she was finally going to get a grandbaby. Guess not.
Now I can't stop crying... I know I should wait, my beta isn't till Tuesday... but I just want to crawl into bed and have my little pity party. Why????
Becuase of the whole single thing, insurance doesn't cover anything (I am seriously considering asking my single friend to get married tempoarily just so this can get covered) and after, i lost count how many failed iui's, now this I don't know what to do....
I am not ready to give up on the one dream I have always had of being a mom, but when do you stop? I already made the change from "when" I get married to "if" I ever get married, I am just not prepared to change from "when" to "if" I have kids.
Could really use some words of encouragement!
Have you considered adoption as a plan B?