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Any advice on... dating??
GeminiJai
Senior Member Senior Member
Okay, so I know this is probably a weird topic to find in the "Single Mothers [by Choice]" forum but, I have to ask...
I went to Oktoberfest this past Saturday and met someone. He asked me for my number so I gave it to him (ironically, so did his friend- but I declined him!) and he TXTd me a couple times Sunday and Monday and then finally called me last night. We talked for 2 hours and it was a lot of fun (I forgot how enjoyable the "getting to know you" part is). He's already TXTd me again today so he's obviously interested- which is where things get tricky:
1. I'm not looking for a new romantic relationship right now... and, even if I was-
2. I'm getting ready to try and HAVE A BABY VIA DONOR SPERM in the next few months!... and, on top of that-
3. I'm in the early stages of premature ovarian failure at age 32, so the fact that I might not have any eggs left once I actually *do* meet Mr. Right could be an issue (the guy I met is 36, has never been married, and has no children).
How do you explain that to someone you've just met, who obviously has a romantic interest in you?? I think we could start off with a great friendship, which may eventually lead somewhere (I'm not getting ahead of myself after a few days- I'm just sayin the possibility is there, right?), and I'm an incredibly honest person so I don't know how long I could or should keep it from him.
Have any of YOU dated during the process of IUI? If yes, could you please tell me how you explained what you were doing and- once they found out, did they stick around or bolt? And... what about dating after IUI? Do single women date when they're pregnant?? :?:
Sorry if all of this seems so odd-ball, especially since this forum is intended for SINGLE women who are trying to be mothers on their own. I certainly don't want to offend anyone with my choice of topic but it made sense to ask.
I went to Oktoberfest this past Saturday and met someone. He asked me for my number so I gave it to him (ironically, so did his friend- but I declined him!) and he TXTd me a couple times Sunday and Monday and then finally called me last night. We talked for 2 hours and it was a lot of fun (I forgot how enjoyable the "getting to know you" part is). He's already TXTd me again today so he's obviously interested- which is where things get tricky:
1. I'm not looking for a new romantic relationship right now... and, even if I was-
2. I'm getting ready to try and HAVE A BABY VIA DONOR SPERM in the next few months!... and, on top of that-
3. I'm in the early stages of premature ovarian failure at age 32, so the fact that I might not have any eggs left once I actually *do* meet Mr. Right could be an issue (the guy I met is 36, has never been married, and has no children).
How do you explain that to someone you've just met, who obviously has a romantic interest in you?? I think we could start off with a great friendship, which may eventually lead somewhere (I'm not getting ahead of myself after a few days- I'm just sayin the possibility is there, right?), and I'm an incredibly honest person so I don't know how long I could or should keep it from him.
Have any of YOU dated during the process of IUI? If yes, could you please tell me how you explained what you were doing and- once they found out, did they stick around or bolt? And... what about dating after IUI? Do single women date when they're pregnant?? :?:
Sorry if all of this seems so odd-ball, especially since this forum is intended for SINGLE women who are trying to be mothers on their own. I certainly don't want to offend anyone with my choice of topic but it made sense to ask.
Comments
I have dated through this process. But, honestly, I haven't found the one that is right for me so I never needed to tell them. I have also started talking to my ex fiance again and I told him the truth from the beginning. He is fixed and doesn't want any more kids (which was our problem and why we aren't married now). But, the way I look at it is our life isn't over right? We are choosing to be single moms because we haven't found Mr. Right? But, who says we won't find him during this process? Give it a shot. If he freaks out it isn't like you invested so much time and emotion in him to where you will be upset. You'll just know exactly where you stand...
LOVE having all this support from you ladies! It's wonderful to discuss ideas/questions/concerns with women who know exactly what I'm going through!!! :P
I also agree with the other ladies....enjoy dating....remember, it is just dating for now....but if things go well, then decide when you want to tell him. But for now, don't over-analyze it...just enjoy the companionship.
I still go through periods when I'm so over dating and men....so I go in hibernation....
Have fun!!! Good luck with whatever happens!
I don't think what your asking is weird, in fact this is the perfect place to ask that question! while we are all single right now, it doesn't mean that we want to be single forever. I have read some posts on here that have said it is easier to date after you are pregnant because it seems to take the pressure off of some guys thinking we are all just looking for daddies.
I agree with what all the women have said before me....Enjoy your date! have fun. It is definately a good think to have other things to occupy our minds besides our ovaries!!
Robin
I know that trying for this baby should be my main focus, and it is, but I simply cannot give up on the idea of finding a man to share my life with. You're all already so much farther into the process than I am... I haven't even had my HSG or started Clomid or had my first IUI attempt, etc. and I'm already a basket case! I go from being happy to being sad in the blink of an eye. It's strange but I think I'm going through the "7 Stages of Grief" as though I've experienced a loss/death... But, I mean, I guess I have-- I'm losing my ovary reserve and I've been thrust into a path that I'd only joked about in years past. I know that I'm making the right choice for myself by going through with IUI because what I've wanted most from life is to be a mother, but I never thought I'd be doing it this way. NOT to say that there's anything *wrong* with being a SMBC (!!)- it's just that, if I'm being honest with me/you, it wasn't what I would have chosen if I had the option of more time.
::sigh::
Sorry to be a downer. Yesterday was a good day. Today...? Not so much.
That's just it- I haven't found Mr. Right and I've run out of time. I need to start trying now so, if Mr. Right is gonna come along- at some point, he'll have to be the kind of man who will accept me AND my child. Otherwise, I have no problem being single 8-) GL to you, too!