Donor photos - did you buy them?

Pixelpie

We've picked out a donor who is perfect on paper. He sounds just like my husband. He doesn't have adult photos though. My husband isn't bothered by that. He decided he didn't want to see any photos... However I feel like I want too... DH pointed out that that face will be stuck in my mind forever then. Which I get that...and maybe he's right. I don't know. I'm so torn... Just wanted to know if looking at photos helped you decide or did it make it harder? I hate that it's making me second guess someone who seems so perfect. I have a few others who were close seconds with photos. Just Not sure what to do. Thanks for reading and any feedback!

hopefulchar

robin

aggiebaby

I was nervous to get the adult pictures because I felt like I might be let down as well. I have decided that if we get pregnant and have a baby by our donor I am going to order the lifetime pictures and keep them in a sealed envelope for my children. I think it is important to have something to give them - pictures, medical info, profile, etc.

Pixelpie

Thanks so much for the feed back. Maybe it is fate and better that I don't have the option of adult photos! That's a good way to think about it. So ready to start this process! Just need AF to show up!!!

sweetpea

We never purchased the adult photos, but the baby pics sure did help us narrow our search down. There were a lot of profiles that sounded great and then we were not pleased at all with the baby picture. Good luck with your journey!

bilbrey828

My partner and I purchased the pictures of our donor. We wanted someone that was similar to my partner. We were glad when we saw the pictures because alot of his facial features match hers, like his eyes and lips. Our child is almost 3 months old now and sure, he looks like me as well as the donor but since the donor had similar facial features as my partner and most people cant tell if he is mine or hers! I guess its all in how you look at it. For us, we didn't really care what he looked like, we were just curious. We have no intention on scowering the internet looking for him but we thought it would be nice if one day our son comes to us and asks what his donor looked like. To me, he looks just like my partner and I....we are just glad that we were able to have the opportunity to have a child.

lmarchet

We didn't want to see any adult photos at that time, since it was SO difficult, but we did purchase one baby/toddler photo. That helped a lot and he looked so similar to my husband's features after looking at that baby photo that we decided it was meant to be and didn't wonder about the adult pics. But i also did purchase the adult silhouette, not sure if that actually helped, but it was nice to have. Hope this helps.

Mikko77

Dani314

GeminiJai

For me, I initially thought that adult/lifetime photos would be ideal... But, in the end, the donor I chose didn't have that option - so, like some of the other ladies said, maybe that was fate stepping in? I purchased his baby photo and fell in love, and my Mom even said that he looks very similar to my younger brother when he was a baby- which made me feel good, thinking the baby will undeniably look like me. Plus, I don't know how comfortable I'd be having the donor's adult image burned into my mind for eternity; I'd hate to think that I'd spend the rest of my life subconsciously looking for him everywhere I went, if that makes sense?