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To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
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The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
Questions about your forum access? Email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Follow these steps to join a private donor group:
1) Press "Join" at the right of the group
2) Once prompted to confirm your request please list this information so we can verify your information:
Name (under which the vial was purchased)
Clinic Name
Donor number
Child Date of Birth
*If you are looking to start a private group for a PRS donor please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com with the above information and that you are looking for a PRS group*
If you have any questions about the verification process please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Donor photos - did you buy them?
Pixelpie
Junior Member
We've picked out a donor who is perfect on paper. He sounds just like my husband. He doesn't have adult photos though. My husband isn't bothered by that. He decided he didn't want to see any photos... However I feel like I want too... DH pointed out that that face will be stuck in my mind forever then. Which I get that...and maybe he's right. I don't know. I'm so torn... Just wanted to know if looking at photos helped you decide or did it make it harder? I hate that it's making me second guess someone who seems so perfect. I have a few others who were close seconds with photos. Just Not sure what to do. Thanks for reading and any feedback!
Comments
It is up to you obviously but i would tell you to go with your gut instinct on the first donor that you love and count your blessing that you don't have to choose if you look at the adult photo or not. Maybe fate decided to step in.
Good luck with everything and i hope you get your bfp soon
Charlotte
I had a similar experience to Charlotte. I loved every aspect of the donor I chose and then bought the liftime photos because they were available. After seeing the photos I started to second guess myself. Not because he was bad looking but because he looks a little like someone I would rather he not resemble. That being said. I pushed the photos out of my head and went with my gut and bought the vials. I am know 6 weeks 3 days pregnant with that donor. After purchasing the pics, honestly I wished I hadn't I still have the pics but do not intend to share them with anyone.
Everyone is different though. You need to make the decision that is best for you!
Good luck and lots of baby dust.
Robin
I know in our situation .. My partner and I wanted to have a ID Option and photos and it's not easy to find a lot of donors that we liked with those factors. We looked at a baby picture of one donor who was so cute as a baby .. but as we went through the lifetime pictures he looked totally different to put it kindly. We realized that we could not rely on solely discriptions or a baby picture we needed to see real life pics .. We also are doing it for our future childrens.. their overall happiness is more important to us then anything. We can deal with putting a face to the number... it's a requirement.
Good luck everyone in what ever you decide you have to make the right choice for each unique situation
M :geek:
I have to be honest though. If you are looking for a certain something in a donor, get the photos! Beauty truly is in the eyes of the beholder. I purchased two different photo series that were said to look like a certain actor. My partner and I laughed as I said "Have they ever seen (the actor)?" It wasn't even close either time. They were attractive and we totally loved one, but the description was not even close on one. He was cute, but not at all what we thought and that photo is what changed our mind. Again, he was cute, but wasn't what we thought. However on the second one we picked anyway because he was perfect in every other aspect.