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The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
Questions about your forum access? Email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Follow these steps to join a private donor group:
1) Press "Join" at the right of the group
2) Once prompted to confirm your request please list this information so we can verify your information:
Name (under which the vial was purchased)
Clinic Name
Donor number
Child Date of Birth
*If you are looking to start a private group for a PRS donor please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com with the above information and that you are looking for a PRS group*
If you have any questions about the verification process please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
My state of mind - a need to vent and get opinions
sibemom
Member Member
My 'issues' are small compared to many, I know this, so I shouldn't complain... but I need the ears and thoughts of ladies who have the same drive to be a mom using donor sperm to bounce some of these feelings off of. Bear with me.
I haven't tried since fall of last year. I had put things on the shelf for a little while for a few reasons. Since then, I started seeing someone - who has been told of my quest and desire, he already has kids heading towards their teens and I don't see us being married someday popping out puppies of our own, so I am still all about a donor.
I guess the bigger issue is something that no matter how long I put it off, it will remain. My doctor's office in this small town means no weekend appointments. They also have disappointed me with regard to the fact that they seem to go through the motions and I feel it's up to me to bring up the topic of starting to use Clomid or the like instead of praying timing and OV tests work their magic.
To be honest, I could SWEAR that one of the IUI attempts did "damage" of some sort, thus triggering several months of my period being very different from normal including one day of bleeding, two days off, then starting back up again for 3 or 4 more days with a nice bought of nausea (something I've NEVER had before). Is that insane to wonder if IUI could be boogered up in some way to cause such things?
When I'm not using birth control pills I feel like I'm bleeding or oozing most of the month. (Sorry for a gross phrase there, but it's how I feel about the heavy discharge when you're suppose to be ovulating.) White underwear or undies w/ white liners are out of my wardrobe unless I want to have a panty liner 24-7 cause you just never know when one big sudden GLOP occurs.
How do I get my mind straight and get focused on doing what needs done to get where I want to be without the stressful distractions making success less likely when I do step back up to the plate? What do I need to ask them when I get in there to take command of my concerns about my body being ready and healthy, and starting to use a trigger?
Thoughts?
-sibemom
I haven't tried since fall of last year. I had put things on the shelf for a little while for a few reasons. Since then, I started seeing someone - who has been told of my quest and desire, he already has kids heading towards their teens and I don't see us being married someday popping out puppies of our own, so I am still all about a donor.
I guess the bigger issue is something that no matter how long I put it off, it will remain. My doctor's office in this small town means no weekend appointments. They also have disappointed me with regard to the fact that they seem to go through the motions and I feel it's up to me to bring up the topic of starting to use Clomid or the like instead of praying timing and OV tests work their magic.
To be honest, I could SWEAR that one of the IUI attempts did "damage" of some sort, thus triggering several months of my period being very different from normal including one day of bleeding, two days off, then starting back up again for 3 or 4 more days with a nice bought of nausea (something I've NEVER had before). Is that insane to wonder if IUI could be boogered up in some way to cause such things?
When I'm not using birth control pills I feel like I'm bleeding or oozing most of the month. (Sorry for a gross phrase there, but it's how I feel about the heavy discharge when you're suppose to be ovulating.) White underwear or undies w/ white liners are out of my wardrobe unless I want to have a panty liner 24-7 cause you just never know when one big sudden GLOP occurs.
How do I get my mind straight and get focused on doing what needs done to get where I want to be without the stressful distractions making success less likely when I do step back up to the plate? What do I need to ask them when I get in there to take command of my concerns about my body being ready and healthy, and starting to use a trigger?
Thoughts?
-sibemom
Comments
I honestly feel that you should take control over your IUI protocol the same way that you took control over your life, when you decided to become a SMBC... I'd say just TELL your doctor that XYZ is what you want. Don't be forceful or overbearing but, rather- explain it with a very calm head, yet, firm resolve. Remind them of everything you've gone through to this point and (if cost is not an issue- or if the process is covered by insurance) let them know that you're willing to do what it takes and that you'd like a more aggressive approach.
If there's one thing I've learned it's that you'll rarely get where you want to go without admitting what you need, in order to get there. If you tell them what you need and they're still not on board with the protocol you want... Maybe venture outside of your small town and try to find another RE's office. It may be a trek but, in the long run, I could only imagine that it would be worth it.
Best of luck and {{HUGS}} to you!