When to share the news?

oceanblue2

Anyone have opinions/advice on when to share pregnancy news with friends and family? I know the safest thing is to wait 12 weeks, but given how sick I already am at 6 weeks, its kinda hard to hide it when I see people in person. I find I'm actually too tired to want to have a big exciting 'moment' with people when telling them, I'd just like them to magically already know so they understand why I'm acting strange! But likewise, trying to come up with cover stories for morning sickness and exhaustion for the next 6 weeks sounds exhausting too. I'm most worried about sharing the news with my parents, because I see them often so I feel like I should, but I don't have the energy to deal with their excitement. Plus I am still keeping myself from getting too excited this early on, so I don't want them all super excited yet.

k&b

I think this is such a personal choice...I don't think there is a wrong way to do it. I have a good friend who told everyone immediately, she miscarried at 8 weeks, and on her second pregnancy she still told everyone immediately! She now has 2 healthy little girls. As for us, we told our parents immediately, because they knew all of the stuff we were going through. We told a few friends at 6 weeks (we had heard both heartbeats) and now I wish I had not. We lost one baby at 8w1d, and it just would have been easier to have waited. At 10 weeks we told our closest friends and some family. At 12 weeks we told the whole world. Had we not lost one baby, I probably would have told everyone at 8 weeks...again, there is no magic answer, you just have to go with your gut. I also appreciated all the prayers I had early on from the people we did let in on the news... Congrats, and I hope you get to feeling better soon!

babyboo

We told my parents the morning of the positive pregnancy test, but we are very close and they knew every step of the process. We told my partners parents around 6 weeks and everyone else around 12 weeks. Good luck!

all4mybaby

When I had my first IUI procedure I told some key people. My mother and brother knew about my pregnancy and in thinking back, I'm glad that they we're the only two that knew. I experienced a miscarriage a few weeks later so the only people that knew about it were my mother and brother. So as I go into this second round of insemination I think I will keep the information of my BFP limited to my mother and brother oh and this forum LOL! Once I hit the 12 week mark, I will share with the broader community.

waiting4baby5

The only pregnancy I have had was after DH and I had been trying almost a full year. We were finally pregnant and told EVERYONE! We miscarried at 6 weeks and immediately regretted sharing the news...we had to make so many phone calls and tell people to spread the word. Nothing hurts worse than someone asking, "How's the pregnancy going?" after you've miscarried. Not to mention, it creates an extremely awkward and uncomfortable situation for the innocent person asking. With that said, DH and I decided that if/when we get pregnant again, we will tell only our parents and siblings until we're at least out of the first trimester. It is a very personal choice and everyone is different so just go with your gut. Good luck and here's to a happy and healthy 9 months!

oceanblue2

Thanks for all the opinions, we decided to tell immediate family after a successful 7 week sonogram, and gradually told close friends after that. Getting my 12 week tests this week, and if all goes well there we'll tell the extended family, work friends, etc. I mainly felt I HAD to tell some people early because I was SO sick I had to explain why I had to cancel visits and why I wasn't as easy to reach by phone as usual. Thankfully as I'm entering week 12 now, the horrible nausea is starting to lighten up, so I'm optimistic that I'll have a better feeling 2nd trimester.