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It has been a while...

k&bk&b Senior Member Senior Member
Hi there ladies! It has been a couple of months since I have been on here...but am glad to see everyone's updates. To all the girls I started on this journey with, I am so glad to "see" you....and to the newcomers, hi!
Well, we are 27w3d today...baby girl is doing well. She moves A LOT. I have been in the hospital twice, but both times were for dehydration (a stomach bug that just would not quit) and both times she was doing great.
It seems that with this pregnancy, new fears have found their way into my heart, and I knew you girls were the only ones I could go to...
For those of you who have been successful with ds...How has your husband dealt with the "oh, she has your eyes!" type comments? I am terrified that my husband will cringe each time someone says something like that...or worse "she looks just like her mother, nothing like her father". We knew this would be a challenge going into this, it has just been on my mind more, the closer we get.
No one knows that we went the DS route, except for my parents and hubby's. I know that eventually, others will learn, because we plan on being honest with our child, but that is still a few years down the line.
I just want my husband to be at ease...to feel 100% like her father...I can not wait to meet our baby girl, and that is exactly what she is, ours. But I wish I had a window into the future, so I could know it was all going to be ok. I can not talk to hubby about this, because it just crushes him, I need him to feel that I am his rock, on just this one thing...as he has always been mine.
Thanks for listening ladies....love to you all
K

Comments

  • robinrobin Senior Member Senior Member
    K&B there was recently a thread on here from the guys perspective on the couples section and it was very enlightening, even though it doesn't apply to me. Check it out it may be helpful. Honestly people see what they want to see, you may be amazed. your husband could get the comments of she has your eyes, referring to your husband. At first I thought Maksim looked nothing like me and that he had to be all donor. turns out not to be the case and as he has gotten older I see more of me in him.... but here's the thing, I have a pic of the donor and I have shared this with my mother and sister, they still don't see the donor in my son and instead look towards other family members to explain some of his looks. Your family will do the same thing. My mom is convinced that Maksim has traits from her brother, whcih he may. I think his chin and lips come from the donor but my family says nope don't see it they are your uncle herb's. Doesn't bother me and I agree. It thrills my uncle that we think he looks like him as he has no kids. So I think your family will see traits from your husband, and he will just smile and nod. People really do see what they want and I think your husband will look for personality traits, that he can help with that deal with nurture and will say she gets that from me, becasue she will! i hope this helps and really look at the thread in couples about husbands!

    Good Luck,
    Robin
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