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The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
Questions about your forum access? Email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Follow these steps to join a private donor group:
1) Press "Join" at the right of the group
2) Once prompted to confirm your request please list this information so we can verify your information:
Name (under which the vial was purchased)
Clinic Name
Donor number
Child Date of Birth
*If you are looking to start a private group for a PRS donor please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com with the above information and that you are looking for a PRS group*
If you have any questions about the verification process please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Advice on picking the right donor....between donors 4538, 2995, and 4215.
Serendipity10
Junior Member Junior Member
Decisions, Decisions!
Please share how you and your partner/spouse picked the right donor for you.
I have been doing most of the searching myself and then going to my husband for his impute.
At first he said he wanted someone that looked like him. However now he is saying he rather use someone that shares a lot of personality traits and interests. That is easier to do then finding someone that looks like him. Plus it is expensive to purchase lifetime photos for multiple donors.
My husband has a unique heritage that is hard to find in the donor world. Mexican-Japanese from Mother and Spainish-Mexican-French from Father. His sister doesn't look Spanish at all but full Japanese. Meanwhile my husband has Mexican traits but have a lot of the european Spanish features. Tall, and the famous Spanish nose. Which I admire.
I could go on and on but donor 2995 share some personality traits and looks similar to my husband as a child.
However donor 4215 is a closer match personality wise....and donor 4538 is a pretty dead on match when it comes to personality and interests. He has some spanish heritage in him.
In the end what did many of you go with looks or personality? Or were you able to find someone that had a combo of both? My husband feels like we should not tell our children that we used donor sperm to help bring them into the world. He feels like it may create insecurities later as teens and adults.
Thank you in advance.
Please share how you and your partner/spouse picked the right donor for you.
I have been doing most of the searching myself and then going to my husband for his impute.
At first he said he wanted someone that looked like him. However now he is saying he rather use someone that shares a lot of personality traits and interests. That is easier to do then finding someone that looks like him. Plus it is expensive to purchase lifetime photos for multiple donors.
My husband has a unique heritage that is hard to find in the donor world. Mexican-Japanese from Mother and Spainish-Mexican-French from Father. His sister doesn't look Spanish at all but full Japanese. Meanwhile my husband has Mexican traits but have a lot of the european Spanish features. Tall, and the famous Spanish nose. Which I admire.
I could go on and on but donor 2995 share some personality traits and looks similar to my husband as a child.
However donor 4215 is a closer match personality wise....and donor 4538 is a pretty dead on match when it comes to personality and interests. He has some spanish heritage in him.
In the end what did many of you go with looks or personality? Or were you able to find someone that had a combo of both? My husband feels like we should not tell our children that we used donor sperm to help bring them into the world. He feels like it may create insecurities later as teens and adults.
Thank you in advance.
Comments
Your decision and that of your husband about keeping this information secret is entirely your own. However, studies have shown that kids of sperm donors are more upset at the dishonesty of their parents, when they do eventually find out, than on being the product of a sperm donor. Honesty is always the best policy!!
Wishing you all the best.
Looks aren't important to us because we plan to raise our children with full knowledge of where they come from, so they won't be confused why they don't look like my husband anyway.
Personality isn't important because we will be a large part of molding our children's personality (although I know their genes will have a little to do with it).
Living a long healthy life on the other hand is very important to us, so we want to do the best we can to ensure our children will have this. I haven't used or looked at these donors, but perhaps looking at their health would be a good way to narrow them down to one?