Hello and welcome to the Fairfax Cryobank Family Forum!
The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
Questions about your forum access? Email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Follow these steps to join a private donor group:
1) Press "Join" at the right of the group
2) Once prompted to confirm your request please list this information so we can verify your information:
Name (under which the vial was purchased)
Email
Clinic Name
Donor number
Child Date of Birth
*If you are looking to start a private group for a PRS donor please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com with the above information and that you are looking for a PRS group*
If you have any questions about the verification process please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
Questions about your forum access? Email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Follow these steps to join a private donor group:
1) Press "Join" at the right of the group
2) Once prompted to confirm your request please list this information so we can verify your information:
Name (under which the vial was purchased)
Clinic Name
Donor number
Child Date of Birth
*If you are looking to start a private group for a PRS donor please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com with the above information and that you are looking for a PRS group*
If you have any questions about the verification process please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Having another?
cathmurph
Member Member
My little guy is approaching two! I'm approaching 43, so if I want to give him a sibling I need to get moving. I'm wondering if anyone here has made that decision. I know my age is not in my favor and I can't quite imagine the logistics of it all, but would love to give him a sibling and go through pregnancy and all the baby stages again. But, it's not the same level of need I felt before I was a mom.
Comments
I think it'll be a tough year, but my daughter is already so very indpendent, that I think she'll be helping out soon, and doing a lot more to get herself ready. Career-wise, this next couple years is a bit quieter for me, so no better time to add an infant to the mix.
My son is only a few months old, & I'll be 43 this year so I don't have time for
spacing beyond the requisite 6-9 months (c-section). But I'm already contemplating
how best to proceed, trying to stay on top of my nutritional status etc... I say go for it!
I feel like being a single mom, is all the more reason to have more than one. Even though
it's bound to be challenging, to me the idea feels more 'complete' than just the 2 of us...
Sending positive thoughts your way, Brandy!
Good luck ladies!
I just found out about this forum today after calling Fairfax. I'm also a single mother by choice and my little girl will be turning 2 next week. I never thought I'd be contemplating a second but the more time that goes by the more I want HER to have a larger family. I did just find out that the donor I used for her is not available which is heartbreaking. Has anyone had to deal with that? The original plan was to start first round IUI in June. I was lucky with pregnancy with the first attempt in 2010 at age 40. Good luck ladies!!
It sounds like our stories are quite similar. I also got pregnant on my first attempt in 2010 at age 40 (turned 41 two weeks before my son was born). I had a boy who will be 2 in two weeks. I'm still contemplating the second - I feel so much older now, but know I need to make my decision soon if I'm going to try. I overbought the first time around anticipating it would take more than one attempt, so I have several vials of my donor stored. I can imagine it would be heartbreaking to if my donor were not available. Were you able to go ahead with IUI this month? Best of luck!!
I had my first at 39 and my second right before my 41st birthday. (They are now 2 and almost 4.) It is so funny because most of what is being said is what I felt. I never throught about having more than one being a choice mother, but then my family suggested it. I have to admit, I had heard things about feeling that your family is complete, and I felt that way after having my second child, but not after having the first. My OB told me to get pregnant fast because I was "old". It happened on the first try (the first one took 3 tries). It is harder having two people who are very dependent on you, but they play together and interact, and really love each other. I wish anyone trying for another the best!
I too just discovered this forum after talking to someone at Fairfax by phone. I have a daughter who is 5 and am now 9 weeks along with #2. I'm very excited and a little nervous about all the extra juggling, but with #1 now in Kindergarten in public school, my expenses with her are much lower, and she's also at an age where parenting is not so intensive. I think she's going to love being a big sister (she has asked me for a sibling for years) and can't wait to tell her.
Good luck to everyone!
My only problem is that my daughter is still nursing, but trying to wean her slowly so I can start the process again in June so if it works they will be 3+ years apart which is what lots of people recommend something quite doable for a single mum with family overseas, but I have lots of great friends around. My fertility doctor won't even see me after she heard I am still nursing, and of course even though my cycles are perfectly normal and I ovulate regularly she thinks that nursing will lower the chances anyway.
I admire all of you that are going to experience their second baby and I think I never had such strong desire for a second and make my family complete.
Best of luck to you all and please keep sharing your amazing experiences,
Roberta
I did end up trying for #2, even though I still think it's insane to go beyond a 1:1 ratio...but my daughter was (is!) so amazing, how could I not try again? So my second daughter was born in January, and I'm learning how to be a mom to two. I am exhausted and more than a little frazzled, but oh man are they worth it. :-) I'll try to post a pic of my girls.
Thanks so much for sharing,
Take care,
Roberta