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Having another?

My little guy is approaching two! I'm approaching 43, so if I want to give him a sibling I need to get moving. I'm wondering if anyone here has made that decision. I know my age is not in my favor and I can't quite imagine the logistics of it all, but would love to give him a sibling and go through pregnancy and all the baby stages again. But, it's not the same level of need I felt before I was a mom.

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  • brandybrandy Junior Member Junior Member
    Me, too! My daughter is 2.5, and I've just started the process to try again. I NEVER intended to have more than one as a single parent, and I still think I'm insane...but I just really, really want to do it. I'm just a hair shy of 39, and have no clue if it will work or not (you never can tell when someone's fertility will go downhill), but I've started clomid and go in for my ultrasound/follicle check next Monday...then we'll see, hopefully a (successful) IUI!
  • cathmurphcathmurph Member Member
    How exciting, Brandy! Here's to a (successful) IUI! I know every woman's fertility is different, but I was 40 when I got pregnant. I had a few months with no IUI, skipped Clomid, did one month of injectibles, and got pregnant with my first IUI. So it most definitely is possible in the general sense. I'll be thinking of you on Monday :-)
  • brandybrandy Junior Member Junior Member
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  • moewhit25moewhit25 Senior Member Senior Member
  • cathmurphcathmurph Member Member
    Congratulations on your cute little girl, moewhit! Definitely enjoy that time off - I work in the schools and had a July baby so had the rest of the summer and then three unpaid months at the beginning of the school year. Definitely worth the financial sacrifice to have those first months with my little one. I am lucky enough to pay half that for daycare and have family nearby to provide additional help. Having my dad available to watch my son when he's sick has been wonderful.
  • azlesterazlester Junior Member Junior Member
  • alison5alison5 Junior Member Junior Member
  • moni0811moni0811 Junior Member Junior Member
    Hello! I am 37, a future SMBC, and have my vials in storage. Hopefully to become next year for ICI. It good to read about other ladies' experience and being a Single Mom! I know that I haven't had my first baby, but I never know what in store for me. But, I have enough vials for 4 ICI or other procedure in those are necessary (I hope not.)
  • cathmurphcathmurph Member Member
    Good luck to you, moni0811! It's a wonderful journey.
  • fspurrierfspurrier Junior Member Junior Member
    Hi! Glad I found this blog. I had my first daughter 4 years ago at 38 on my first IUI try. It wasn't until this last year that I seriously started thinking about having another child. I think she would make a wonderful big sister and i love motherhood! I have 2 vials left and have just begun the process for another IUI but i am fearful that it will take more than 2 tries and the donor isn't active anymore. Looking for any suggestions-should I just have faith and go the IUI route? Should I just jump right into IVF? Should I try IUI once and if it doesn't work then move to IVF? Has anyone useEd a different donor for their second child? My prolactin level is 11 and AMH is .64. Any thoughts, opinions, or support is welcomed!
  • cathmurphcathmurph Member Member
    Hi fspurrier! I got pregnant with my first at 40 on my first IUI (it was medicated). I had several vials left and decided to try again at age 43 using the same donor (I also had vials stored) and almost the same meds. My first IUI was a success again and I am now 11 weeks! So, it is possible. What does your doctor recommend? I do have friends who used a different donor for their third child and it doesn't seem to be an issue for them. If you do end up using another donor you're going to love your child no matter what and they will grow up as full siblings regardless of genetic makeup. Best of luck to you! Keep us posted.
  • SMC86SMC86 Junior Member Junior Member
  • cathmurphcathmurph Member Member
    Congratulations, smc86! I feel the same way - excited but definitely nervous about the extra juggling. Mine will be three years apart. I think the first two years will be tight financially and a bit overwhelming but ultimately so worth it!
  • cglankcglank Junior Member Junior Member
    I had never planned to have more than one child, but I feel more and more that my little girl needs a sibling! I've been contemplating another for a while now and have decided to move forward! And yes, I think I'm crazy (as do most people) Unfortunately, my donor is not available either, so exploring other options now. Wish me luck please!
  • cathmurphcathmurph Member Member
    Best of luck, gclank! That's exactly how i felt. It is a crazy and exciting journey :-).
  • suzanne-mariesuzanne-marie Junior Member Junior Member
    I'm also going the "crazy" route and contemplating having a 2nd one. My little boy was born in October, and I just turned 37. I know I have time, but admit that I'd like to do it sooner rather than later. Had to go via IVF and luckily have several very viable embies in storage. Its just a matter of actually going through with it! The daycare costs are insane, but hopefully worth the sacrifice!
  • mab9w7mab9w7 Junior Member Junior Member
    I too am seriously thinking about a 2nd. My baby girl is 8 months. I am 38, and I had a wonderful pregnancy. I really wish I could meet some other single moms for play dates and maybe sharing with the pregnancy stories. Congratulations to all the single mothers making it happen:D
  • BlessedMamaBlessedMama Junior Member Junior Member
    I just found out about this forum too and just " pulled the trigger" on trying for #2.... My daughter is almost a year old but I was told when I conceived here, knowing I wanted to her to have a sibling, that I should try again as soon as I was able to. ( I conceived via IVF - got pregnant 2/2tries with IVF but 1st pregnancy ended in early m/c) I just turned 39.... So I start my stimulation meds today.... Very surreal. Excited for #2 but also feel like I just went through IVF ;) best of luck ladies!
  • cathmurphcathmurph Member Member
    Best of luck to all of you! I am quickly approaching the 20 week mark and will find out if I'm having a boy or girl this week. My 2 1/2 year old son has consistently referred to his baby sister so I fear I may have my work cut out for me if I have to convince him he's going to have a brother. He is far more excited than I realized he would be. The other day our cat jumped onto my stomach and my son yelled, "hey, your hurting my baby!" Melted my heart.
  • brandybrandy Junior Member Junior Member
  • libergirllibergirl Junior Member Junior Member
    I just joined this forum and it's so awesome to go through all of the different threads (even though some started two years ago!). It's even more interesting and very encouraging to see the time progress from planning on having a baby, going to for the IUI and having the baby! I just started my journey, I go in for my first IUI (medicated) next week. I don't even have the first yet, but when I made the decision to be a SMBC, I figured I would likely have a second, maybe even a third! Crazy, I know, and so many things can change, but it's good to know that at least two are manageable. Good luck to all!
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