How on Earth do we do this???

aquebedeaux

My partner and I are completely overwhelmed by the task of choosing a donor? Where do we start? How do we know he is the right one? We have a friend who has offered, but that is a whole different kind of scary.... Input? Advice? Personal experiences? Anything helps!

aquebedeaux

Sorry for the double post... this took forever to show up, so I thought I was doing something wrong!

tal970

I don't have a parnter to help me make this important decision. You should be thankful you have a signficant other to discuss this with. I started by filtering or looking for characteristics in a guy that were important to me. Maybe for you that is height, eye color, hair color, eduction, etc. Got to get started somewhere. From there you will want to look at medical history, maybe how many siblings they have, etc. If you want to go further maybe helping look at photos of this person can help you to decide. Hopefully you will feel a personal connection to one of them or you just pick the person with the qualities that you like most.

tigerlilies

tal970

That is an interesting choice. Not sure which sites carry a large selection of that nationality. Fairfax as well as some other cryo's do fairly extensive testing looking for hereditary diseases. Some of the guys on here might not be working yet, allot are college students. Perhaps you might want to narrow down what professions you might be interested in by what they are studying in college. I really hope you can find a fair amount of donors to select from. My ferftility clinic referred me to 3 sperm clinics: California Cryo, Fairfax & one calledy cryobio. Cyrobio was their so called preferred clinic. I didn't like the information that they provided about each donor and not to mention the costs of all the extras you would have to pay for just to decide on a donor when the other 2 sites would list it for free. Btw, you have a year to research which clinic you intend on using. Good luck to you and your girlfriend!

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