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How on Earth do we do this???

aquebedeauxaquebedeaux Junior Member Junior Member
My partner and I are completely overwhelmed by the task of choosing a donor? Where do we start? How do we know he is the right one? We have a friend who has offered, but that is a whole different kind of scary.... Input? Advice? Personal experiences? Anything helps!

Comments

  • aquebedeauxaquebedeaux Junior Member Junior Member
    Sorry for the double post... this took forever to show up, so I thought I was doing something wrong!
  • tal970tal970 Member Member
    I don't have a parnter to help me make this important decision. You should be thankful you have a signficant other to discuss this with. I started by filtering or looking for characteristics in a guy that were important to me. Maybe for you that is height, eye color, hair color, eduction, etc. Got to get started somewhere. From there you will want to look at medical history, maybe how many siblings they have, etc. If you want to go further maybe helping look at photos of this person can help you to decide. Hopefully you will feel a personal connection to one of them or you just pick the person with the qualities that you like most.
  • tigerliliestigerlilies Junior Member Junior Member
    Well, I'm not completely ready to invest in anything at the moment my girlfriend and I still have to wait a whole year which is upsetting, but let me share what I plan on doing.. (Donor wise)

    I want an Asian baby, Chinese to be precise.
    So, the donor much be Chinese,
    I also want to see baby pictures and his health records throughout the year as well as his parents... Just invade they don't have diseases or such that are passed by generation to generation
    Also, I'd check where he works and his hobbies, which can also reflect how your child might grow up to be and have interest in.
    (Btw neither my gf and I are Asian)
  • tal970tal970 Member Member
    That is an interesting choice. Not sure which sites carry a large selection of that nationality. Fairfax as well as some other cryo's do fairly extensive testing looking for hereditary diseases. Some of the guys on here might not be working yet, allot are college students. Perhaps you might want to narrow down what professions you might be interested in by what they are studying in college. I really hope you can find a fair amount of donors to select from. My ferftility clinic referred me to 3 sperm clinics: California Cryo, Fairfax & one calledy cryobio. Cyrobio was their so called preferred clinic. I didn't like the information that they provided about each donor and not to mention the costs of all the extras you would have to pay for just to decide on a donor when the other 2 sites would list it for free. Btw, you have a year to research which clinic you intend on using. Good luck to you and your girlfriend!
  • MummiesToBeMummiesToBe Junior Member Junior Member
    Hi there! I think it is personal experience and personal preference. My partner and I had a few of the "major" requirements if you will with our selections:

    1. Health-I have a gene that causes colon cancer, and her father had rectal cancer very early on, therefore NO cancer was very paramount!

    2. Since we are utilizing a donor, we wanted one that matches one of our blood types, she is O and I am B+, we went with an O donor.

    3. I wanted an ID open donor, she didn't care either way, but raised good points, even if the donor is ID, doesn't mean our child would ever make contact, the donor could die, not update their contact info, etc., all in all I am now fine with not having an ID donor as a choice.

    4. Photos-definitely had to have a child photo and lifetime photos if possible. I want our child to have as much info at their fingertips as possible should they want to know.

    5. CMV status, that matches your own, IMO I think this is important, some docs don't feel it is, but I do.

    6. Pregnancy reported, tried and true LOL!

    7. Lastly, were other things like hair and eye color to better match "us", height, my partner is 5'9", I am 5'2". Ethnicity and race, we are both caucasian have Irish/English and German ethnicities.

    Good luck with your decision and don't worry about any backlash you get from anyone, the choice is yours and your partner's! You'll figure it out!
    My partner and I are completely overwhelmed by the task of choosing a donor? Where do we start? How do we know he is the right one? We have a friend who has offered, but that is a whole different kind of scary.... Input? Advice? Personal experiences? Anything helps!
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