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The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
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3rd miscarriage, feeling discouraged, any hope???
blkern23
Member Member
I have been trying to have a baby for quite some time. I have an 8 year old daughter from a previous marriage but am trying to have a baby as a single mother this time around. I had my first miscarriage in 2011. It was discovered at my 8 week u/s that the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. I started fertility treatments 15 months ago. The whole process took much longer than I ever imagined but they finally did my 1st IUI in October 2012. It was a success and I was thrilled. However it ended as a chemical pregnancy. My 2nd IUI was unsuccessful. My 3rd IUI in April was a success. I saw the heartbeat at 7 weeks and really thought things would be ok. I went for my 10 week OB appt on Thursday and the baby wasn't moving and there was no heartbeat. The baby stopped growing at 9 weeks 2 days. I was devastated and in shock. I had to have a D & C on Monday.
It's so overwhelming thinking about starting this whole process over again. I thought I was done with 2ww's and the Day 1-5 u/s's that show cysts and have to wait another month to try. Now if I get pregnant again, how will I ever rest and relax. I'll never be able to stop worrying. I don't know how I'll ever tell my daughter (who has no idea I've been trying to have a baby) that I'm pregnant when I won't ever know if the baby will be ok. The doctors tell me most likely it was chromosomal each time and I should be able to get pregnant and carry the baby to term...however they don't know if it will be the next time or the next or the next. I will have test results back in several weeks that will hopefully tell me a little more but they docs say most likely they will just tell me it was chromosomal problem and I just need to try again. As long as the test results don't show anything unexpected I am hoping to start over in August. The waiting starts again...
Has anyone else out there had the same problem and have a happy ending??? I could use as many prayers and words of encouragement as possible.
It's so overwhelming thinking about starting this whole process over again. I thought I was done with 2ww's and the Day 1-5 u/s's that show cysts and have to wait another month to try. Now if I get pregnant again, how will I ever rest and relax. I'll never be able to stop worrying. I don't know how I'll ever tell my daughter (who has no idea I've been trying to have a baby) that I'm pregnant when I won't ever know if the baby will be ok. The doctors tell me most likely it was chromosomal each time and I should be able to get pregnant and carry the baby to term...however they don't know if it will be the next time or the next or the next. I will have test results back in several weeks that will hopefully tell me a little more but they docs say most likely they will just tell me it was chromosomal problem and I just need to try again. As long as the test results don't show anything unexpected I am hoping to start over in August. The waiting starts again...
Has anyone else out there had the same problem and have a happy ending??? I could use as many prayers and words of encouragement as possible.
Comments
Have you been tested for antiphospholipid antibodies? There are 3 of them and they are usually part of prenatal blood work. When recurrent miscarriage occurs without other known causes, this is often investigated. It is easily treated with blood thinners during pregnancy. If you are unsure, check with your doctor.
I hope that you can get through the next week and gear up for a new cycle in August. Lots of prayers for you!!
J
I am sure there is someway that they can test to find out what's going wrong. I know my doctor mentioned a test that can be done with IVF to test egg quality before transfer. I am not sure if there is a similar test with IUI. Maybe change donor too?
My cousin had two miscarriages then a health pregnancy. Keep your head up.
I did speak with the director at the fertility office this week. She was great. After my follow up appt for my D & C and the test results are back from the baby we will get right into planning the next move. I did ask her about the antibodies and she said that is something they can test for and if positive they will send me to a specialist to be sure I get all the right meds for that. There is also a chance of genetic testing for myself. Most likely I will be changing donors. After 2 miscarriages with the same donor that makes me a little nervous.
Other than that, the director told me to just relax and try not to obsess over the waiting(which is what my mom has been telling me all week). I wished my whole summer away last summer and I'm going to try real hard not to do that this summer. So I really do need to relax and enjoy all the things I have to be grateful for.
Thanks again for your support. I'm doing my best to keep my head up and look to the future!
We always have so much to be thankful for. I try very hard to fill my life with activities so that I do not become too consumed with the process. I think the biggest lesson this process is teaching me is patience.
I do understand that you have been waiting a very long time for this moment, but time flies. In no time you'll have your baby in your arms. I cannot believe it has been a year for me.
Enjoy the break with your daughter.
Keep in touch.
Tamara