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The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
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Name (under which the vial was purchased)
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The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
Questions about your forum access? Email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Follow these steps to join a private donor group:
1) Press "Join" at the right of the group
2) Once prompted to confirm your request please list this information so we can verify your information:
Name (under which the vial was purchased)
Clinic Name
Donor number
Child Date of Birth
*If you are looking to start a private group for a PRS donor please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com with the above information and that you are looking for a PRS group*
If you have any questions about the verification process please email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Looking for Book Suggestions for helping tell children
c2b30
Junior Member Junior Member
I purchased a great book "Before You Were Born - Our Wish for a Baby" by Janice Grimes, RN which help us explain (at a very basic level) the struggle and ultimately our decision to go with DS. Now that our children are at grade school age I was hoping to find a book that takes the explanation to the next level, so they feel confortable talking about it with us and among their peers. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Comments
Here is a blog with suggestions of Two Mommies Books. Hopefully some of those have age appropriate suggestions.
I myself am the offspring of a sperm donor and I learned about my biological father in late middle school (8th grade or so). I had always suspected that my dad was out of the picture for a reason (raised by a single mom) and through out my life my mom had dropped hints. She waited until I was older in order to fully comprehend my situation and for that I am grateful. What helped me with the revelation was a site my mother had found and made an account on that was dedicated to bringing together donors and their offspring or half-siblings with each other. (I believe the site was advertised on Opera's show once....) She revealed the biggest pieces of the puzzle to me then revealed some smaller details throughout the week so I would not be too overwhelmed. And what really helped was my excitement over the six to seven half-siblings listed under the same donor number.
This method - constructive informational conversation with some cool details and/or a visual - is what I suggest. I know that I would have blabbed the information of my donor parent all over school in all the wrong places and to all the wrong people if I had known in Elementary. Then again, having a sperm donor help a couple or single parent have a child was scandalous and shunned at the time I was conceived.
Going back to the peers and sharing it with the world, you should make sure your kids have a sense of what's right and wrong and when to not say anything. I suggest this because some families are (unfortunately) not open to the idea of a "donor child". I am very familiar with this concept, growing up under a democratic single parent in one of the most conservative counties in California. I am sure that members of other communities, such as the gay community and minorities community, can identify with this issue. I remember in 9th grade when I told a close friend about my family's circumstances. While I knew I could trust her I had a feeling that something would go wrong, and it did. After browsing through some text messages, M.'s mother asked M. to not hang out with me anymore. We kept our friendship a secret for a while but it eventually fell apart and I had lost my first high school companion.
I know I probably went off track but I really hope that I helped. I just joined this forum after my mother received an email from my supposed father. We are still trying to confirm his identity and make sure it's not a scam but I figured I'd come here and take a peek anyways. I'm sorry if something here has offended you or anyone else. I am just an eighteen year old college kid who saw this thread and wanted to give a separate perspective.
Sincerely,
kmb13