Any one feel guilty?

mountaingirl

latebloomer

I honestly have never felt guilty during my whole journey. I believe each person has to make the right decision for them. For me it was about starting my family and experiencing the pregnancy myself. Most sperm banks are retiring donors once they reach a certain number of reported pregnancies to keep from having the 100's of half siblings but they are basically at the mercy that the recipient reports the pregnancy. At the end of the day keep in mind you're not responsible for the half siblings and are not even obligated to have a relationship with any of them. I am one that has decided that I will not be online searching for half siblings and that may change down the road but I feel that I've gone through so much to have a child I selfishly do not want to share my child in that way. I've been at it for almost 3 years so it's been a long road for me and so many others. I just think you have to do what's right for you. Go with what your heart and gut are telling you. If you feel using donor sperm is not your thing, consider freezing your eggs while you wait for Mr. Right but hope that Mr. Right comes as soon as you need him to and that he has working swimmers!

JacesMom

Dont feel guilty at all, i was worried about my biological clock i wanted kids by 30, so my partner was ok with it even though we were only together 6 months , i didnt know if they would be around in the future, but i took the chance because i wanted a child before i couldnt or didnt have the chance (money). When u have that little bundle of joy in your hands trust me you wont even think twice about if you made the right decision, so many people these days are single parent families and its all good. Just because theres no dad doesnt mean they miss out on things. Theres always family and friends to fill that void.

cathmurph

I'm also a single mother and have a 2-year-old son using donor sperm. While I do wish he had a father, and that I had a husband, I have no regrets about having him on my own and don't feel guilty. I would much rather have him and be single than be in a relationship and not have him. If I didn't go this route, he wouldn't exist. He doesn't know that he's missing anything and I feel like he has so much more going for him than many kids in two-parent families. He gets lots of love from my family and friends. In terms of the half-siblings, I believe Fairfax caps the families with pregnancies from a particular donor is 20. That is still a lot of kids, but not close to 100 unless each of those families has 5. If it helps to alleviate the guilt, know that starting out with two parents is no guarantee that you'll have two parents throughout your childhood. And starting out single does not mean that a father figure won't be added to the picture/family. Life can be unexpected. Best of luck!

NatashaLovesKatie

Anne72

SMBC here of a wonderful 7mo girl. Zero guilt. Best thing I ever did and I know that she is a completely loved and wanted baby.

mountaingirl

IndianaTwins

I am a single mother by choice and have raised 17 year-old twins on my own. It hasn't always been easy but it's the best thing that ever happened to me. I love my kids and have never regretted my decision.