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is 42 too old?

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  • DJ3196DJ3196 Junior Member Junior Member
    Good luck, Carrie. I, too, wonder how I'll react to that question down the road. But I figure it's not that much different than adopting a child.

    There is a book called "Single Mother's by Choice" that addresses this issue and it kind of helped me get my head wrapped around the idea of not only having a child by an anonymous donor but also being prepared to respond to my child's natural instinct to want to know where he/she comes from.

    I wish you a lot of luck!!
  • shariberrydaxshariberrydax Junior Member Junior Member
    Kerrie M wrote:
    Hi Gabby

    Give it a go! I conceived first time IUI with own eggs at 46yrs and now have a terrific toddler at 49 going on 50. No problems pregnancy or breast feeding. It's tiring but worth everything. Good Luck!


    KerriM, Thank you for that. It's encouraging to know of other women's success despite the age factor. I have secondary infertility; I have a son who is amazing and I would love to have more children. So, a few years ago I visited an RE and I became pregnant on my second IUI attempt, suffered a miscarriage (Trisomy 15), then a second pregnancy, when I became pregnant unexpectedly during my Clomid challenge test. I was happy but also very stressed out during that entire pregnancy expecting the same outcome, but that next baby was healthy; and then I had a miscarriage for other reasons, which was a painful shock. My former RE said that at my age, I should move on from trying to have a baby with my own eggs. I am not ready to give up yet. I know the odds for women in their 40s. But,I at least wanted to try again, since I know that I can get pregnant. So, thank you for sharing your situation.
  • BarbraBarbra Member Member
    I'm 42 now and debating about having baby # 2. I would like to wait a while. My daughter is 19 months and I love being able to give her all my love and attention. I work full time and feel so gulity about not being with her as much as I want.
    I have a lot of concerns about waiting til i'm 43/44 to get pregnant again. It took 3 IUI's. I have 3 vials of her "father" left. I was 39 when I got pregnant and 40 1/2 when I gave birth.
  • MAHopefulMAHopeful Junior Member
    I am 42. Everyone here knows the intense need, wanting, longing to have a baby. It never goes away. Friends and family say that "someone is out there for you." Well, I can't wait to find that someone anymore. It is literally now or never. So, on February 29th I had my first appt at a fertility center and I'm on my way. Friday is my Day 12 ultrasound and hopefully injection night. Then, if all goes as planned, my first IUI will be this Sunday, Easter Sunday. Everything has gone so well, that I can't but help to get my hopes up. My financing came through for meds, donor sperm, and procedures. I even qualified for a program to recieve 30% off treatment. How do I not get excited? How do I not cry for joy at a BFP or cry out of despair at a BFN? The 2ww wait, or actually 17 days, is going to be unbearable. Plus I've read that sometimes the side effects of prometrium are just like being pregnant. Having said all of this, it is so encouraging to find other women doing what I'm doing. Although I have support from friends, they just don't get it.

    Here's to a successful 1st try. If not, there are 2 more. :P
  • allie0730allie0730 Junior Member Junior Member
    Hi Gabby,

    I got pregnant after my 40 th birthday with IVF. I tried IUI 3 times with Clomid, but it didn't take. I'm due on May 17 and I've had no complications and I'm expecting a healthy baby boy. I'm single and used donor sperm, one great advantage is there will never be a custody battle. Good luck and keep trying!
  • ButterflyButterfly Member Member
    Definitely not!! From a 40-yr old single mommy-want-to-be, just do it!!! If you really want a child, i feel strongly that you will regret it if you did not go for it. I'm meeting with my obgyn next week to talk about having a baby through sperm donor and am excited.
  • Evieg22Evieg22 Junior Member Junior Member
    If someone wants to be a mom, then age should not stop them!! I didn't let it. Several months ago, at 43 I decided I definitely couldn't imagine never being a mom, and couldn't wait any longer in hopes I would meet the right guy. I started the journey in February, and the R.E.'s opinion, and my numbers, were not very promising. He didn't feel meds or IVF would improve my chances since my only issue s "advanced maternal age" (yuck). I had my first unmedicated I.U.I, with one trigger shot (Ovidrel) the night before. 2 weeks later, I got my BFP!! I am now almost 8 weeks pregnant, and so far all is going well. I'm on progesterone suppositories as a precaution, and have one more week of them. I am nervous and excited, and don't regret my decision in the least.
  • cnoelle1213cnoelle1213 Junior Member Junior Member
    I am so thankful for this post! I am 41 (42 in December) and having my first IUI with this cycle. I am doing a round of Clomid as well as the trigger. I am keeping optimistic. This will be my first pregnany and I have made the decision to be a single mother. I have and amazing family and friends who have been dealing with my excitedness. I wish all of you the best and I thank you for sharing. I look forward to hearing more....

    Christine
  • degoddesdegoddes Junior Member Junior Member
    I am 43 and just had my son via IVF in April. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner. I am a single mom and had a GREAT pregnancy and he is such an angel (so far) that I really would like to pursue #2. Just not sure if the wait to let my body heal would be too long. i used my own eggs but my numbers were borderline so i guess we will have to see
  • dtazracer1969dtazracer1969 Junior Member Junior Member
    I went through ivf in 2010 and I was 41 when I delivered. I'm 42 now and considering going through the process again.
  • moni0811moni0811 Junior Member Junior Member
    No, you are the perfect age to try to have a child! I am 36 years old, planning to try IUI treatment in the next 2 to 3 years.
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