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The forum has a new look and the Fairfax Team is so excited to create the best experience for our users.
To Note:
Private Donor Groups and Private Sibling Connection Groups are now located under the category "Groups". Search the donor number in the search box and you should find exactly what you're looking for!
Questions about your forum access? Email forum@fairfaxcryobank.com
Follow these steps to join a private donor group:
1) Press "Join" at the right of the group
2) Once prompted to confirm your request please list this information so we can verify your information:
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Some Frustration...
moewhit
Senior Member
So just to provide some background info:
I'm 40 years old
Very fertile but no partner
Decided to finally move forward with using a sperm donor. Began my journey at Shady Grove Fertility Center and through all the baseline tests the MD was amazed at my "ovarian reserve" My ovaries were that of a 20 year old. Had a total of 22 follies (they hope for 10 minimum) upon the initial tests and all of my hormone levels were well within optimal range. So I go through all the paces and prepare to do my IUI next cycle using Clomid. So despite the fact that I still had many follies, I was instructed to begin Clomid 100 mg day 5-9. I questioned my nurse since this seemed like a high dose for someone the is perfectly healthy and have no previous health problems. I specifically asked if I should start at 50 mg?? I was told no because I'm 40, and that's the protocol for women your age. So fast forward to day 12 and several monitoring sessions later. I have 6 follies and FIVE of them could potentially be released if I go forward with the trigger shot and subsequent IUI. They were HUGE more then 20 mm each. I'm so irritated because I could try to manage as a single mom with twins but NOT FIVE!!! My doctor said that I'm amazing and don't look anywhere near my age. He also said that if I was his daughter, he would advise her not to do the IUI this cycle. I took his advice and now I'm out over $1000 for this missed cycle. Then he says "Don't shake hands with anyone in the next few days!!" WTF??
Should I insist on not using Chomid this next cycle?? The doctor says he wants to back off on the dosage. I'm wondering if I should even take it?? I'm I was also warned that I may have cysts on my ovaries during the next cycle from the Chomid which will further delay the next IUI. I'm so frustrated. Sometime times I wish I were the type of woman that could just hook up with somene for a well timed one night stand......But that's just STUPID!
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated!
M
I'm 40 years old
Very fertile but no partner
Decided to finally move forward with using a sperm donor. Began my journey at Shady Grove Fertility Center and through all the baseline tests the MD was amazed at my "ovarian reserve" My ovaries were that of a 20 year old. Had a total of 22 follies (they hope for 10 minimum) upon the initial tests and all of my hormone levels were well within optimal range. So I go through all the paces and prepare to do my IUI next cycle using Clomid. So despite the fact that I still had many follies, I was instructed to begin Clomid 100 mg day 5-9. I questioned my nurse since this seemed like a high dose for someone the is perfectly healthy and have no previous health problems. I specifically asked if I should start at 50 mg?? I was told no because I'm 40, and that's the protocol for women your age. So fast forward to day 12 and several monitoring sessions later. I have 6 follies and FIVE of them could potentially be released if I go forward with the trigger shot and subsequent IUI. They were HUGE more then 20 mm each. I'm so irritated because I could try to manage as a single mom with twins but NOT FIVE!!! My doctor said that I'm amazing and don't look anywhere near my age. He also said that if I was his daughter, he would advise her not to do the IUI this cycle. I took his advice and now I'm out over $1000 for this missed cycle. Then he says "Don't shake hands with anyone in the next few days!!" WTF??
Should I insist on not using Chomid this next cycle?? The doctor says he wants to back off on the dosage. I'm wondering if I should even take it?? I'm I was also warned that I may have cysts on my ovaries during the next cycle from the Chomid which will further delay the next IUI. I'm so frustrated. Sometime times I wish I were the type of woman that could just hook up with somene for a well timed one night stand......But that's just STUPID!
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated!
M
Comments
Good Luck!
M
My MD put me on 50mg of Clomid and monitored me on cycle day 11, instead of day 12. Thankfully this time I have one very large follicle, 23 mm and I was most likely was going to ovulate on my own depending on bloodwork results. So I scheduled my first IUI for the next day, today Sunday!! I was told to use my trigger shot the night before. Very strange to self administer a belly shot. Burned somewhat but I survived.
So here I sit in a packed waiting room waiting with the masses. Had an 8:30 appt and they are running behind with all the patients that had to be monitored first. Okay the waiting room is finally clearing out! I'm a bit stressed because the lab thawed my donors sperm around 7:30 and it almost two hours now! I'm going to ask if I'm next..... wish me luck!
M
I finally was called in to the office for my IUI an hour after my appt time UGH! Apparently after the sperm is thawed, they keep it warm so nothing is compromised if there's a delay in the schedule. The sperm count was at almost 9 million, which is three times the minimum according to the physician's assistant. By the way, I didn't know they can do this procedure. Anyway, I didn't realize the IUI was happening, it took about 2-3 minutes! Basically I was asked a question about if I was going to watch the football game today and before I could answer it was OVER!! LOL! I've had more eventful Pap smears. I was instructed to lay on the table as long as I like but that five minutes was fine. That was a few hours ago and I noticed that I have some strange spotting on the panty liner and when I wiped there's a pink tinge. I'm also crampy on the right ovary (probably the follicle releasing egg).
According to my bloodwork, I'm going to ovulate tomorrow, so today was just extra to make sure that sperm was waiting in the "wings". And tomorrow I will go for my 2nd IUI. Then the following day I begin Prometrium twice a day (suppository...yuck!) and continue this until BFP or AF. This is to help with implantation by "plumping up" the uterine lining.
I hope that this works. I'm keeping my fingers and toes crossed!!
Moe
You can have a bit of spotting after the IUI because it loosens things down there and you do bleed a bit when they do the proceedure.
Nothing to be worried about. Mine was painless as well but took a bit longer, apparently everything sits back a bit in my body and tips down some so it took a little more work to get there.
I am counting my days till my next cycle to go again. I am not sure when that will be as when I finally got a cycle this last time it lasted two days. Arrr, not that I mind a short one but I hate that it messed up a perfectly normal system I was used to.
How many follicals did you have this time around?
I only had ONE follicle which measured 24 mm on day 11. Which is why I was told to trigger the same day and schedule two IUI's just for good measure. That's so weird how I went from 6 mature follicles on 100mg on Clomid then one jumbo one on 50 mg
Here's hoping that your cycle gets back on track. It's crazy how this journey can mess up a perfectly "Normal" cycle and get you off track. But you will be back in the game soon. The waiting is the hard part. Hang in there!
Thanks for the well wishes and encouragement!!
Moe
Again good luck.
Don't know why the IUIs didn't work...I'm getting frustrated and I'm out of pocket for ALL costs!
Thank you so much for your encouraging and informative reply. I really appreciate your message. I know that I'm not alone on this journey :-) This morning was my day 3 ultrasound and bloodwork. Thankfully I don't have any Clomid cysts. The nurse found 19 follicles in my right ovary and 16 follicles in my left one. She said they were all very small. This is typical for me on day 3. Anyway, I'm waiting for a call within the next few hours to give me the green light to start Clomid cycle day 5-9 (50 mg). And I've decided to just suck it up and go for monitoring my first day at my new position. I have a 7 a.m. appt and then make the trek to work. I'm just going to let my manager know that I will be about an hour late and then hopefully work something out for the following two days. Since based on my results most likely I will need to go back for the IUI's during the next two days. I have a pretty good rapport with my job (I've done contract work with them recently and they asked me to come back). Hopefully they will be flexible....
I've invested so much time and $ at this point and couldn't bear to start all over with another doctor. Timing is everything. My HCG trigger shot was subcutaneous not intermuscular. I may be mistaken but the hip area is for intermuscular shots(?). The subcutaneous (under the skin) method is pinching a peice of belly fat just a few inches away from the belly button. Did you pinch the skin on your hip or just inject it straight into the area? Looking forward to hearing about your next cycle and BFP
If you have a smartphone you should get the app for What to Expect When You're Expecting. The full website is awesome also http://www.whattoexpect.com. Good luck and baby dust to you!!
Moe
I should be starting a new cycle either tommorow or the next day. I am not near as excited this time around, maybe its my way of being protective of myself to not get my hopes up just in case. I do hope this time works as its the last vial of this sperm I have and he is not available. I was really hoping to have a half sibling to my daughter now. Either way if it dont take, I hope not to get cysts from the clomid again. I hate having to take a month off.
Hope all is well! moewhit thanks for suggesting the what to expect site. I went there after reading your last post and was literally on information overload for 2.5 hours and didn't move from the couch! Lots of info but lots of ladies dealing with baby daddy drama. I can't imagine it which is why I took this route so I wouldn't have to deal with that! I had enough of that with my first "real" job when I worked for the state at the Child Support Enforcement office for 5 years! It was instant birth control for me in my 20's!
Bluesky you'll be fine. Ever heard of saving the best for last? Perhaps this last sample is exactly that! I'll pray for you. I should be starting my cycle tomorrow so round 2 of IUI will be right around the corner. I have a different feeling this time and it's a good one so let's hope it works.
Stay positive ladies, we can do this!
On a side note, today I drove to Fairfax to pick up my donor vials. It saved me about $200 and it was only a 25 minute drive to get it and then about an 1 hour to my doctor's office. It really didn't register in my mind that I would actually be handed a nitrogen tank which I had to carefully pack securely into my car so that it didn't knock over. The Fairfax employee told me to treat it like it was a baby. YIKES, I'm a crazy NY driver in D.C which has some of the most seasoned aggressive drivers. With the ice storm on it's way I was so scared I would flip my SUV on a patch of black ice. Anyhow, I made it safely to my destination and now have to return the empty nitrogen tank within ten days or Fairfax will charge me.
I felt weird carrying this huge tank through the parking lot of the hospital. I felt like everyone was reading the labels on the sides which read cryobank, gif, do not tip, etc. Anyway, who cares what people think right
Bluesky, we can be cycle buddies if you'd like since I will be having my second IUI next week. Where are you in your cycle?
Best wishes and sticky baby dust to you ladies!
Moe
Moe your story of the "daddy pickup" was funny. I would have strapped him in and told him to hang on and would have let him know this was probably not going to be the kind of ride he was used to! I've been to both NY & DC and now I live in Vegas and the drivers are just as crazy! Maybe Fairfax will give you some extra time if you're not able to get the tank back on time b/c of the weather. Let us know when the 2ww starts so we can do the count down with you! I just hope I don't cheat this time and take a HPT! I still have one left but I really need to learn to be patient! It's so hard though!
BTW did either of you have the trigger shot? I seem to not be able to get enough sleep since I did that but surely the side effects don't last that long do they??
Good luck today!
I decided to be safe rather then sorry. My other three choices were all unavilable or not donating anymore. I didnt see any others on there that caught my eye.