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Mary thanks so much for your insight into the genetic testing. I'm currently 42 and really didn't want to do anything invasive. I know that based on age alone that will classify me has having an increased risk but I also have read of a lot of false positives. So I'll see what the NT scan shows combined with early and 2nd trimester bloodwork, and hopefully get great results!
Time for a nap!
Moe
Just wantedM to touch basis with you all to let you know that I completed my 3rd IUI yesterday. Everything went well, so now I am into the second day of "The Wait".
Good luck! Praying for you.
And Char and Anne - positive thinking is vERY important. To this day, my OB says the only reason I have a baby is because I believed it would work. He thankfully didn't tell me the high chance the fibroid/robotic surgery would end up having to be a hysterectomy. He said it was possible, but then always said 'but it will be fine'... and he worked through my uterus trying to collapse during the surgery because he wanted me to have a baby... partly because now he can show my pre uterus and after uterus to other docs and then tell his fellows that he then delivered my son and they all say "no way! that uterus could never carry a child... well done" and partly because he believed in my dream for me... I only found out after Aidan was born how miraculous the surgery and the pregnancy really were given the horrible distended fibroid filled uterus i had.... And my doc to this day says "it's because you believed it would happen and never doubted"... so please talk to the babies and believe... it really means more than most give credit for.... but 'if you build it, they will come' isn't a cliche for no reason!! Prayers and very positive vibes out to both of you!!
Xoxo
Charlotte
Pauline, how are you doing during your TWW? I'm sending prayers and positive thoughts your way. I hope your bean sticks! Keep your mind busy and before you know it you will see that BFP. Will you wait for the beta or POAS? Stay strong honey, it WILL happen.
Looking forward to your updates :-)
If we would have chosen to pay per cycle it would have been 13,000 with 1 fresh round and all necessary bloodwork and ultrasounds.
i wish you lots of success in a quick pregnancy with no complications.
Moe how are you feeling? you are quickly approaching the end of the first trimester. Congrats!
Anne is there anything new with you?
Pauline my fingers are crossed for you..cant wait to hear of your BFP
has anybody heard from late bloomer or Regan?
Robin and Mary you continue to be my rocks. thank you for your constant prayers and support especially through the last week and two days.
xoxo
charlotte
But the good news about the bleed, if it can be called that, is that it is located close to my cervix and below the pregnancy so the risk, while still there, is a little lower.
I'm just trying to breathe deep and stay positive. My next appointment is the 10th
Prayers for you all.
I am on day 4 of stims and hanging in there. It's different this time. Next US is on Tuesday so we'll see what's in there!
Sounds like there were quite a few scares since I was last here. Glad everyone is hanging in there and doing ok.
Moe sound like all is well for you. That makes me so happy
Late bloomer welcome back. It's very good to hear from you. Good luck with your next journey.
I do agree that moms are great. My mom has been my rock the last couple weeks. She is so strong and has remained calm this entire time for me. I thank god everyday for her.
I do think about you all very often and I hope I didn't upset u all when I disappeared for a couple months. This forum was always very important to me and that never changed even though I d take a break for a little bit. Pregnancy and the very long road to it has been life changing for me. And not in the way that I expected when we started trying in August of 2010. Thank you all for allowin me back and I really do hope this forum will welcome me with opened arms the second time around
Thanks
Xoxo
Hi Jkrich!
Sorry for the delayed response. My insurance doesn't cover anything beyond the fertility consultation. One IVF cycle costs 12k but I paid 9k with the facility discount. Meds were close to 4k(cannot remember exactly). I paid $3500 for the subsequent FET and the meds were $200, so huge difference if you get frozen leftovers to use later.
There honestly isn't a "consistent" answer to the overall cost and it truly depends on the facility. There are some facilities that will offer a discount based on your income. Most will offer a multi-cycle discount which really isn't a discount because you can waste money if the cycle is a success on the first try. But this also offers "peace of mind" because you know that it's not a one shot deal. My experience was the one shot deal which was the above cost because I would not pay 20-23K for the multi-cycle deal at my facility. Fortunately, my one shot deal really wasn't that at all because of my frozen embryos from the fresh IVF.
It sounds like your insurance company will cover fertility treatments and fertility medications. Which is a huge!!! That's awesome because that's the bulk of the cost. I don't know the actual breakdown of things because mine was a global flat fee which was discounted. Do your research and find the BEST facility for you and then you can call for a price list.
It's crazy how things vary from state to state and from one insurance company to another. Good luck and let us know how you make out. Congrats on moving forward!
All the best,
Moe
Char, glad all is well and that your Mom and husband are there for you.
The stitching and bedrest is an old procedure that has many risks associated with it. Infection to the baby is my biggest fear. It can also be fatal for the mother. Also it can cause irreversable damage to my cervix which would kill my dream for good.
They have a new very encouraging protocol with one medication that stops contractions and another that helps make your cervix stronger don't can last longer. I am doing both. There is no proof that doing the stitching would help me above those odds. So we opted against it. At least for now. In the meantime I go in to the high risk dr once a week for an ultrasound to make sure my cervix is the same and an internal exam with the s
Dr to make sure te still closed at the bottom. So the good news is I get to see my little Mcnuggit grow every single week. T
The first milestone I need to hit is 24 weeks and I'm about. A month from that. Every day I pray thanking god for another day with my guy. After 24 weeks I will at least be able to breate a sigh of relief that with great dr and medicine this little man has a chance at a happy healthy life.
The good news is he is as healthy as can be. Thank god for that
I hope your well and enjoying the start of your second trimester
Xoxo
Prayers and sticky babies and baby dust to us all.
lots of prayers for all of you!
Robin
in regards to JKrich, my insurance covered a lot, I only had to pay for sperm and the iui's. I know that you are asking about IVF, I did not have to go that route so I can't tell you. What I will say is that my insurance would have made me start with iui and than move to ivf before they would pay. I had to pay a total of maybe 400 for meds and believe me I had a lot of meds and then just the copay for the ultraounds. The most was spent on the sperm and the iui's I probably spent over 5000 for all of that. that is nothing compared to what most of the ladies on here have spent. My job does not pay much but has kick a--- benefits. I have stayed at the job for that reason alone.
Robin, Charlotte, Moe and ladies - Thanks so much for the prayers. I'm still bleeding slightly but talking to my Little Bit and telling him/her to fight on and stay healthy and growing. I'm focusing on the positive. Really hoping to get off bed rest sometime next week but just breathing and praying for a healthy baby whatever it takes. Love to you all
Was it difficult to do the injectables by yourself? Did you get other family members to help you? Are there certain injections that can only be administered into the rear end? I remember someone saying that she did an injection while her power was out and used the light from a flashlight to help her. That is great dedication!
its great to have ivf as a second plan though.
lots of baby dust!
Charlotte, any updates? how are you and the baby?
Robin
THanks
charlotte
As for me, morning sickness is more like evening sickness and very early morning sickness. But I'm taking it as a good sign of a sticky pregnancy.
Anne, my all day sickness always gave me piece of mind if I wasn't as sick one day I would start to worry! Crazy huh? That's probably why it lasted almost the whole pregnancy! It gave me peace of mind but then made me feel horrible. Here's to that sticky bean!
I swear I am hungrier now than when I was pregnant! I'm eating all the time thyank goodness tthois breastfeeding burns mega calories! I can't wait till you all get to share your post pregnancy stories with me! 8 wonder what they will be? Charlotte will likely be sharing stories of her little guy and his big personality and how he charms everyone that meets him and Anne will be talking about how active her little one is! Remeber ladies the power of positive thought goes a long way! Prayers are important but so is your state of mind! Visualize the end game and what you want! Its gotten usall here so keep it up! Your strength amazes me and inspires me!
Sending positive thoughts andprayers your wY!
Robin
It's been a while since I've posted, but I wanted to let you know that I've reached the end of my 3rd TWW and the results were a BFN :-(
I'll be moving to the 4th cycle as soon as AF arrives, but will be talking with my RE about moving on to something more aggressive if this round doesn't work out.
I think about you guys all the time and was so ecstatic to read about all of the successes that have been happening. Keep up the good work ladies and I know I will be joining your ranks real soon!
Pauline
Jkrich, I was the one giving my self injections by the light of my Iphone during the power failure from the storm. I didn't have the option of someone giving me the shots so I always gave them. It was rough and I did it for about 10 weeks before I was told to stop. It's absorbed by the body better than other methods but I certainly would welcome suppositories over muscular shots daily. I surprised myself because I got through it and it was all worth it!!
Charlotte, continue to be positive and hopeful in this challenging journey. I know you will make it to the safe zone!
Robin, glad to hear you're well. I never had any morning sickness so I guess I'm just one of the lucky few. I'm just fighting the fatigue. I feel so raggedy and worn down. But I'm getting close to the 2nd trimester and will be 13 weeks tomorrow.
Thankfully today I had my genetic screening and all looks great! The baby was very stubborn and actually flipped his/her back to the scanner. We tried so many tricks to get it to move and it was a good 30 minutes of trying to get a profile. I could count the fingers on one hand as it was fist pumping and kicking. The only thing that got the baby to flip in position was me having a good belly laugh. All the other tricks the technician told me to do didn't work. It was amazing to see all of the details. Then when the doctor had to double check the NT measurements the baby was completly turned upside down doing a head stand. Gosh!! Oh the nasal bone was just where it needed to be.
No flutters or kicks felt yet but I might be in for a wild ride. Oh, heartbeat was a strong 166, I have a feeling it's a boy (?) But I won't find out for sure...
How's everyone doing?? Hope all is well and remember to be encouraged!!
Baby dust to all :-)
Moe
Tomorrow is the day for me to put in my lone frosty and will need all of the good wishes that I can get! Just worrying about thaw right now. Have been hangin' my head over this last month. So much so my sissy surprised me by flying in for a visit, and my mother has finally agreed to me giving her swim lessons in my pool (likely so she can check on me). Have been trying to get her to swim well since I was 5yo and now she agrees! It has been fun and for once she isn't giving up so trying to go with the lesson myself.
To the frozen one!
Littlepete - Thinking of and praying for you today. It only takes one! So happy that your mom and sister and checking up on you.
I'm in the belching stage. It's so lovely (not) but I'd rather belch than have severe nausea. I do get nauseous but it's not horrible. I don't like hot foods so am eating lots of salads and sandwiches. And I've found a new love for pickles. Just really makes me laugh since it is so stereotypical. I need to have regular snacks and Triscuits and peanut butter are a favourite. My mom is still here helping. She's been a lifesaver for the 8 weeks she's been here. She gives me my PIO shot every morning and I'll be sad to see her go when I have to start stabbing myself in the thigh!
Littlepete, I hope that your frostie is finding it's way as I type this. How was the transfer today??
I hope that everyone is in good spririts!
Moe
Moe, The cravings are weird are they not?! Towards the end of the pregnancy i couldn't get enough hot stuff.... now it gives my little gut gas like you wouldn't believe so no more hot stuff while I am breastfeeding
Sending lots of positiive thoughts and baby dust to you all!
Robin