Currently in tww

callen

Good to talk to you Drizzy. Glad you are doing well. 😊

lposh

Houston

lposh

Major issue!! I have one vial of my donor and my doc needs two per ivf round. I like the donor I picked already but he's on a wait list now. So I'm having to look at other banks to find a donor I like. Ugggh

Houston

lposh

Houston

D-rizzy

Oh my gosh Lisa!! That sucks big time! Is there a way to see if anyone has an extra vial and is willing to sell it? Is that allowed? I have seen some posts about it but not sure if it can be done

janbaby

Lisa I feel your pain. My donor is not in the system anymore at all. I have a son by him so I wanted to stay with the same donor. You can purchase from others if you can find someone to sell a vial. I was also told you can purchase ICI and have your clinic do the wash are their any of those available?

POT03005

If you can find someone willing to sell you the vial, it is allowed. That is how we got four of the vials we used this cycle from someone who has a half sibling to our daughter. Fairfax charges some fees to change it over to your name etc which is required (at least by RBA) for FDA regulations. Best of luck with that... will they work with just one if that is all you have for this cycle?

janbaby

I think they would do just one vial like Kerri said, they just might want two for a better chance for you. But if your willing to do it with just one they should. Off to go shoot up with Follistim! :-)

lposh

It said in my papers they recommended two so I called and ask the nurse if one would be okay and she said no actually they need two in the lab. I just never imagined I'd be looking for a new baby daddy. I'm stressed that I just layed down today and ended sleeping the entire afternoon away. I guess I'm emotionally drained.

ck2014

ck2014

I totally understand your frustration. We just went thru a similar situation. We chose a donor, were led to believe he had vials coming so we took the last 2, went on the wait list. Turns out he doesn't have vials coming so that was a waste of $ (I feel bad saying that, but it's true). I guess in hind sight everything happens for a reason & maybe that's why we weren't successful the 1st time around. I don't know, I have to grasp something! It's very frustrating choosing a donor then having to re-choose.

ck2014

jaszica

txgrl74

POT03005

NYFLY and I private messaged several times but I haven't heard from her since the 9th. I have sent a few messages, but her profile says she hasn't been on since the 12th. I am hoping all is well also.

lposh

Moonlitwish

Houston

janbaby

callen

lposh

janbaby

Lisa, try not to get down too much. It is an exhausting process we have to go thru and no one understands it the way we all do on this board. I am sure you are right and your friends are just trying to make light of a situation they don't know how to respond to. That's why you have us to lean on :-) keep your chin up. I was on my baby journey for 10 years and know the timing was perfect now.

lposh

I'm trying to imagine two months from know when I'm pregnant and on the other side of this. I don't know how people are able to handle this over so much time. It even makes me wonder if I'll be a strong enough mom if things like this upset me.

lposh

janbaby

I hear what you are saying. We haven't decided when to tell our son but when we do I hope that he knows that his mom and dad love him more than life itself and it doesn't matter biologically who he is from. There are those of us who came into world the "natural" way and know our father and don't receive as much love as your little one will probably get from you alone. I have faith in you Lisa that you will be a great mom because you do care so much already.

D-rizzy

Hi Lisa, I am so sorry you are going through all of this. I am going to be 100% honest with you, and i understand that we are all different but picking the donor meant a lot less to me than it does to you. My main concern was the donor and his family's health conditions. As long as there weren't an excessive amount of heredity diseases, he was okay in my book. Of course it was still a difficult choice but I did not put as much stock in having specific or a lot of information to tell my child about him. Talking with the therapist before I started my IUI journey helped me realize that while there may be some kids that need more info, most just need a basic explanation of how we became pregnant. As my child gets older, if he/she needs more info, all I can give them is the basic info and the picture that I purchased. I have no doubt in my mind that that will be enough. To me it is different than a baby being born and the dad leaving. There was no dad to begin with, just our love and desire to have a baby and a really nice man who donated sperm to make sure it could happen.

Houston